What was the exact wording when they expressed the belief that God loves them better, etc.? They cannot have used those words!
I think I know what you mean, though, as I've had more run-ins than I want to with Protestants who believe in the "prosperity gospel" or whatever it's called.
What about this hitting babies? How old are we talking, how hard, for what reason, and using what kind of object? Because I have found no way to stop my toddler from doing certain potentially dangerous things besides lightly smacking her fingers (with my own hand, of course) -- this is after twice telling her sternly to stop, and she doesn't. I don't think it hurts her, and my intention is not to cause pain, but it does hurt her feelings. I don't like doing it, but it's got to be more pleasant than, say, having her fingers sliced open because she kept on rooting through the kitchen trash and encountered a can lid. If there are better ways to stop this sort of thing when you have a strong-willed toddler, I'd love to know it. (I'm glad she's strong-willed -- I want her to stay that way -- but I also want her to survive in one piece, no nasty cuts or infections, etc.!)
I hope Mrs. Duggar isn't one of those mothers who puts the baby on a strict feeding schedule. I do have a big problem with that.
Are you serious about the bread with tomato sauce and cheese -- for DINNER? Are we talking all the children? (Hey, there are times I'm just happy to get solid, non-sugary food into my child, so I wouldn't fault them if once in a while they gave something like that to the tinies. Once in a while.)