I really need some help / guidance here guys. As some of you may have seen, my last grandparent (grandmother) passed away almost 3 months ago. My grandfather passed a little over a year before her. They were immensely influential in keeping the flame of faith lit for me. They were also both very humble people and the loss of that humility in my life has wiped me out. Growing up they were always there for their grandkids. They did not let us walk over them, but they weren't brutes either. We could talk to them about anything. They were warm people that you just wanted to be around even if you were just talking about the weather.
In any case less than a month before my grandmother passed away, my wife and I signed the contract for our new house. We wanted to move for several reasons. 1) The basement apartment was getting a bit crowded with 2 babies. 2) We like to entertain family / friends but didn't have the space to do it without intruding on my grandmother somewhat although we always included her in our plans. 3) A disgruntled uncivil uncle. 4) Wanted to get in the market before interest rates went up (thankfully we did).
#1 could have been managed, but #3 was really becoming an issue. This uncle was spewing such garbage about my wife and I behind our backs, and he would explode at my grandmother over stupid things not related to his issues with us. To be honest I just wanted to get my family out of that situation and hope that with us gone, uncle nutcase would calm down somewhat.
Our new house has lots of room, big backyard, and is fixed fairly nice. It is however 45 minutes one way from my work and about 30 minutes from my parents (in-laws live out of state). We decided on the house because it is nice and the price (purchase and taxes) was right. As great as all that sounds, I've been really saddened that we missed out now on buying my grandparents house which would have been at least as good a buy (ok their house needed a good deal of work....and it has no dining room).
The purchasing of our new house went mostly smooth and I largely credited that to my grandfather advocating for us to God to get us out of my uncles toxic path. Now, I don't know. Perhaps I was letting myself be dazzled by a bunch of materialistic garbage and the "advocating on our behalf" was really to just have faith and pray to stay. Maybe if I had just carried that cross and dealt with the uncle's nonsense, which was not to my face but behind my back, I would have bought the house I had so many great memories in. My commute would be much shorter and we'd be closer to my parents. The commute is not horrible, but it was better.
I also think my grandma was sad to see us moving out. I think us living with her gave her a purpose after my grandfather passed away. With us looking to move out, I think she just couldn't bear another major upheaval in her life like that. After my grandfather passed away, I started seriously thinking about buying the house but didn't know how long my grandmother would be with us. When she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (wasn't what claimed her....bled to death of an ulcer behind the radiated tumor) the prognosis was positive since the docs caught it before it spread anywhere.
I guess I just needed to get this out there.....you can't "return" a house and selling it would be a major pain in the ass (which I think I can't do anyway for 1 year since the interest rate is dependent upon living in it for that amount of time). The moral of this story as I see it is don't let a bully force your hand.