I was born on January
21, 1963 in Indianapolis, Indiana, and have lived
here all my life except for four hellish years I spent just outside
Seattle. I never want to live outside of Indiana again.
I'm an INFJ, curious, emotionally intense but generally laid-back with
regard to worrying, passionate, sickly, myopic, neurotic,
Franciscanesque in spirituality, awed, inspired by beauty, and prone to
sadness -- but just as prone to silly goofery. I can be a total froot
I am very sleep-disordered, tending to be up at night but sometimes
cycling around the clock in a haphazard fashion.
I'm generally introverted with bursts of extraversion that can make me
come off as the class clown, and after which I have to be alone to
My life has had a few interesting twists and turns that make describing
it all rather difficult. Lots of long stories...
I can be friends with pretty much anybody -- from firemen to doctors to
bikers to professor to everyone in between. I can pal up with people of
all races, creeds, colors, ages, gender identities and sexual
persuasions -- none of that matters to me friendship-wise, though I
generally tend to befriend and relate to men more often than women.
At any rate, when it comes to friends, I don't have to agree with
someone about everything in order to pal up. What matter to me are
integrity, good will, "chemistry," and a sense of humor. I like it,
too, when someone can teach me things.
I have three years of college behind me but didn't graduate. I worked
in my family's bakery for 20 years and then, after it closed, spent 10
years as an almost literal hermit. It was during this "hermit phase"
that I wrote the bulk of the FishEaters website. I so rarely left the
house that when
I finally did venture forth,
I didn't recognize the new currency! It's kind of funny thinking
back. I went from being a "hermit" here in Indiana to moving to a
place outside of Seattle for a few years (long story). I'm now back in
the house I'd left and where I've now lived for almost 30 years (minus
those 4 Washington years).
Believe it or not, no joke, I'm a paleoconservative constitutional
monarchist -- for the little guy and the smallest, least divisive, most
sane form of government possible. I've thought a lot about such
As things are, though, given our political system and how most people
freak out at the very idea of monarchy, I guess I can be described as
"libertarian-ish" (though I'm
not a Party member and definitely am not
I think usury, fractional reserve banking, fiat currencies, and
institutions like the Federal Reserve are the keys to how things have come to
be the way they are (the "1% problem," 5 corporations owning at least
90% of the media, the loss of popular control over the political
processes and our own cultures in the West, etc.)
I'm into learning about: History; social and cultural phenomena; human
nature; psychology; sex; relations between the sexes and between
parents and children; men's rights; the importance of patriarchy;
personality theories and classification; analyzing dreams; art and
architecture; movie-making; medieval astrology; symbolism; the
preternatural world; human evil, puzzles and riddles; and a slew of
Things I Do For Fun
I'm into games and puzzles and such; having my few friends over
to hang out; studying; reading; writing; making music; baking when I have surfaces to work on; making
memory books; surfing the net; watching movies; watching animals;
listening to old time radio; and going to the library when I can.
I love trying to do little "crafty" things, but can't say I'm talented
One of my very favorite things to do is to go through 19th c.
newspapers, medical journals, women's magazines, and other old
publications. Tripped-out and fascinating!
Things I Love
Impersonators and impressionists; books; natural history, history,
medical, and science museums; watching animals eat (I love having
beautiful old buildings; bells; windchimes; cemeteries; old restaurant
depictions of the
cosmos; old clocks; automatons; marionettes; music boxes; iridescence;
brooches; the stars; the sea; bonfires; fireplaces (wish I had one);
the Zodiac; kaleidoscopes; telescopes; microscopes; stereograms (I see
them inverted; it's weird!); 3D effects; optical illusions; beautiful
polished stones; willow trees; certain animals
(especially wolves, elephants, octopi, whales, porpoises and dolphins,
birds (crows are too cool), cats, dogs, fancy rats, hens, owls, frogs, orb weavers, otters, beavers,
dung beetles, fish); ballet (I know nothing about it, though) and
good dancers; flowers and flowering houseplants; Niagara Falls; those
giant trees in California; snow; Sailors' Valentines; Autumn and
Winter; artful memento
mori; Christmas and Christmas cards; Hallowe'en; Easter; St.
Valentine's Day and valentines; teaching bright, inquisitive kids
things; being taught things by smart people; adults who still have a
wonder and awe... so many things. Oh yeah, nothing pleases me more than
getting massaged by someone who knows what they're doing and where I
I love slang and Ebonics (though not in a P.C. way) and sometimes find
myself talking that way and in a million other (bad) accents and voices
just to be silly.
Idea of a Good Time
Having family or a friend or two or three or more over and, always with
food and drink at hand, doing random stuff -- like watching movies,
playing games, making things, writing things, baking or cooking stuff,
getting buzzed and grabbing scripts and "rehearsing" for plays we'll
never be in because we suck, planning on and practicing for going
caroling at Christmastime, taking personality tests together, analyzing
little parties, having a picnic, listening to old time radio shows,
having bonfires, making informal book clubs, watching meteor
showers at the right times of the year (one year I saw the Leonids put
on a breathtaking show. I couldn't believe
what I was seeing!). Anyway, just hanging and coming up with stuff, or
sometimes, when the friends are close friends, just hanging and doing
nothing together. Or doing different things separately, but in the same
I like: books about my intellectual interests; true crime; the
Douay-Reims; Poe; Guy de Maupassant; fairy tales; beautiful art books;
biographies of interesting people; strange old books like "Anomalies
and Curiosities of Medicine"; M.F.K Fisher; and short stories.
Magazine-wise, I like Culture Wars; Chronicles; New Oxford Review;
Taste of Home; and Vogue (I'm so not a fashionista type, but I love
looking at the pictures).
Favorite Movies and
I'm into old noirs, Hitchcock's stuff, Kubrick, and most anything with Barbara
Stanwyck, Bette Davis, Joan Crawford, Cary Grant, or Cagney (Cagney
dancing to "Give My Regards to Broadway" in "Yankee Doodle Dandy" is
one of my all-time favorite movie moments. It totally kills me every
I love: "A Streetcar Named Desire"; "All About Eve"; " The Women" (the
original); "Mildred Pierce"; "Braveheart"; flicks with crazy-good
dialogue -- like "Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?" and "Glengarry Glen
Ross" -- and great, interesting characters, like "Jackie Brown" with
"Ramblin' Rose" with Laura Dern, "The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie," or
"Freeway" with Reese Witherspoon.
One of the greatest movies ever is, in this Catholic's opinion, "The
Passion of the Christ" -- but it's more a meditation than a "flick."
I totally love " The Outlaw Josey Wales", "Tombstone" and a very small
handful of other Westerns, but that's not my favorite genre by any
I love the Godfather movies, gritty, 70s-era, set-in-NYC movies (e.g.,
horror (not slasher) flicks (I love 1958's "The Fly"!); schlocky,
so-bad-they're-good movies (The Room!) and 70's-era made for TV horror
I almost always prefer drama over comedy, and love good documentaries
about interesting people ("Grey
Gardens"), History, Art, the natural world, things involving learning
from and people doing facial reconstruction based on a find of old
bones, or documentaries about things like engineering failures, how the
Brooklyn Bridge was built -- whatever's interesting.
I really like Robert Duvall, Jimmy Stewart, Vincent Price,
Mel Gibson, Irene Dunne, Claude Rains, Clint Eastwood, Fred Astaire,
and Laura Dern.
Television-wise, I'm pretty old school and adore Columbo, old American
sit-coms (Beverly Hillbillies, Andy Griffith, etc.), Fawlty Towers and
other old British stuff (Are You Being Served?, Keeping Up
Appearances). I also like some of the true crime
stuff and documentary type shows. Some reality
TV can be fun sometimes -- at least those shows where wives get
traded, nannies deal with out-of-control kids, and Not-So-Sweet
Sixteens spend trillions on parties. That last's a train-wreck I gotta
watch if I see it's on. Sometimes it's good to just vege on "The Little
Rascals" or "The Three Stooges." Sometimes I like to watch old movies
or old TV just to feel a nostalgic sense of normalcy.
Beethoven is The
One classically (OK, "Romantically"), and I also dig
Chopin, Bach, and
I love 40s swing and the kind of jazz that was in "The Man
with the Golden Arm" (I know nothing about jazz; I just know what I
like when I hear it).
I love Caruso (got that from my Italian Grandpa) and great crooners
Sinatra, Ella, Piaf, Billie Holiday, Judy Garland, Nina Simone, and Nat
I love doo-wop, the young Elvis, Zeppelin; the Stones; the Beatles; the
Jimi; T-Rex; old Aerosmith; Uncle Ted; Neil Young; Nirvana; Ozzy; Black
Sabbath; Cream; BLS; Pantera; Bjork, and tons of others.
old country, like Hank, Sr., Johnny Cash, and Loretta, and I love music
grew up with for sentimental reasons. I also like some rap/hip-hop, a
few catchy pop tunes that come about now and then, and off-the-wall
Gregorian Chant and Native American flute and drums.
Favorite Foods and
Greek; Italian; Thai; Indian; Mexican; seafood; cheeses; bread;
cheese; bacon; good old American Mom and Grandma food (R.I.P.);
teriyaki; fair food; popcorn;
pineapple; cherries; peaches; watermelon; almondy or lemony stuff;
Amaretto; coffee; tea (mint, Earl Grey, Almond, and Chai are my
got a MAJOR sweet tooth and looove: pavlovas (be still, my heart!); ice
cream; pecan pie;
pie; lemon, and coconut pies; spicy cakes; cookies; caramel apples.. My
favorite things to get for Christmas are Mrs. Prindable gourmet jumbo
apples with the milk chocolate, caramel, and pecans or walnuts, or
chocolate-dipped Australian glaceed apricots. Oh, my gosh! Yes,
sweets are the thing.
Peonies, water lilies, gerbera daisies, white, pink, or green
carnations, African violets, ranunculus, roses, lilacs, wisteria... I
love 'em all, but these stand out.
Here's the big, politically incorrect deal-killer: I smoke. A lot. And
am not all apologetic about it. I don't believe the "second-hand smoke"
hype at all (though, of course, I don't want to won't
people who are allergic and such), but will be miserable. I don't freak out at the site of a
pregnant woman having a smoke, like Lucy and every other mother did for
generations, or of people smoking around (Oh God, no!) children. I find
the tobacco hysteria very annoying. It seems, though, that to many
non-smokers, tobacco smoke smells awful, something I'm very
self-conscious about, knowing my clothes and person are suffused with
As long as it's not mean-spirited and I have a sense of the motivations
of the joker, I don't mind humor that some might consider "racist" or
"sexist" and think that people are way too uptight lately.
I also tend to cuss. I don't mean to offend, and try to behave around
people I think it'd bother. I am, though, very touchy about taking the
Lord's Name in vain.
I'm a hair-twirler from way back.
I have to have water, coffee or tea, and cigarettes with me at all
Being Italian-American, I can get very touchy-feely with people, often
quickly. I think I can come off as too "exuberant" sometimes. OK, often.
I prefer to sit cross-legged or with legs up somehow, even when sitting
I'm a total nester and feel a little awry outside of my home, so I
much, much, MUCH prefer that friends come to my house rather than me
going to theirs. I'm not a big "goer-outer".
I'm a "behind the scenes" type, not digging at all the idea of being
famous. Being respected and loved would be nice, but "famous"? Ah, hell
I hate, hate, HATE to have my
picture taken. It's not that I'm hideous (I'm not, actually, by
non-Photosthopped standards LOL), but I am on film and despise cameras
aimed in my general direction.
I loathe fluorescent lighting (that sort of atmosphere does no favor to
Italians at all), extraneous, unwanted noise (I almost always mute
commercials), and non-smoking environments.
I have symptomatic left ventricular hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (that
disease that kills a lot of otherwise asymptomatic basketball players
all of a sudden, out of the blue) that makes it a really, really bad
idea for me to exert myself. I can get swoony and feel like passing out
pretty easily. I also have myofascial pain syndrome, which is why I
take massage very seriously as therapy.
Symbols That are
Important to Me
The willow tree, the sea, the wolf, elephant, the sand dollar, the
Moon, Saturn, the scarab, the North Star.