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From the National Catholic Reporter.  Wild.



Hugs are an outward sign of inward grace
Michael Leach  |  Feb. 14, 2012

Vickie Leach is a serial hugger. When a party is over it takes us an hour to say goodbye. Don’t even mention weddings.
Ponie Sheehan, our friend, is the Wonder Woman of huggers. When she and Vickie get together they disappear into each other. Don’t sit in the same pew as Ponie if you panic at the kiss of peace.

Vickie and Ponie are adult children of a kinder, gentler time. It is their loving habit to express a truth of our existence: We are all literally in Love. We live and move and have our being in Love (Acts 17: 28), and nothing can separate us from that Love or from each other (Romans 8:38-39). Can anyone separate a wave from the ocean? Our purpose in life is to come to see and to show what we really are in Christ. A hug is an outward sign of an inward grace. It expresses our spiritual oneness with God and each other. What could be more beautiful?

Jesus hugged children, embraced cripples and kissed lepers. St. Paul asked Christians to “greet all the brothers and sisters with a holy kiss” (1 Thessalonians 5:26.) A holy kiss is synonymous with a hug today: a warm, friendly, respectful gesture of unity and loving regard. Paul repeats the suggestion to four other communities, as does Peter when he asks his followers to “greet each other with a kiss of Christian love” (1 Peter 5:14). The kiss of peace at Mass comes from this ancient tradition.

Isn’t it ironic that not only coworkers but priests and catechists have grown afraid to hug? Hugging, a sign of peace, could get you in trouble. Fr. Joseph Girzone, who is 81 years old, observes, “These days so many people who work for the church are afraid, it’s sad.” When Father Joe helped out in a Maryland parish for the past eight years, he stood outside the church after Mass on Sunday and hugged everyone. Kids told their parents, “I want to go to the 9 o’clock Mass so I can get my hug.” Big men walked up to Girzone and said, “I didn’t get my hug today.”

“Hugs are as natural as praying,” Girzone says. “And they’re healing.”

When Jesus embraced cripples, they walked again. When he kissed the cheek of a leper, scales fell from his face. When he hugged a child, the child felt not fear but safety.

Family therapist Virginia Satir confirms, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Research shows that hugging for only 20 seconds lowers blood pressure and increases oxytocin, a hormone that relieves stress. A lot of hugging reduces the risk of heart disease. And everyone knows that hugging makes babies (and grownups) cry less.

Pastoral ministers will tell you that hugs are as essential to their tool kits as holy water. Fr. Matt Hoffman taught us seminarians that the best thing to say to someone who is grieving is nothing. “Hug them!” he told us. None of us know what to say when visiting the sick, and that’s why we don’t visit them enough -- we’re afraid. But a hug says it all, and is all the ill and despondent want. An old saying goes, “A hug is a universal medicine. It is how we handshake from the heart.”

A few years ago I was on a two-day retreat with 15 of my classmates from the seminary. It was my turn to make a presentation and I chose the topic of suffering, because bad things happening to good people always baffle me. At the end of the talk, Tom Smith said, “I have to talk to you guys about something.”

Tom told us about his beloved daughter, who had recently died by suicide. He was sitting on a desk chair that was like a cross pinning him down, but he gave us his wounded heart, and at just the right moment Johnny Pritcher stood up and said, “All right, guys, group hug!” We all rose and embraced and tears flowed and love passed from one guy to another to the whole world. We held it for more than a minute.

And understood everything we would ever need to know about hugging and the overwhelming love of God.

http://ncronline.org/blogs/soul-seeing/h...ward-grace
I guess if the True Faith is not good enough, make up a bunch of touchy-feely love-dovey garbage.

Notice how they did not quote any Church Father, Council, Pontiff, or other Magisterial or theological anything?
Might be an obscure practice first started by cloistered monastics in cold climates.
Some of the more memorable quotes:

Quote:Kids told their parents, “I want to go to the 9 o’clock Mass so I can get my hug.”

Fr. Friendly and parents teaching kids the real importance of the Mass.

Quote:Family therapist Virginia Satir confirms, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

What does this even mean?  Four hugs a day for survival?  There have been many times in my life when I've received a heck of a lot less than 4 hugs a day.  I'm still alive.

Quote:Pastoral ministers will tell you that hugs are as essential to their tool kits as holy water.

That explains all their success, especially with the not-a-middle-aged-woman crowd.

Quote:An old saying goes, “A hug is a universal medicine. It is how we handshake from the heart.”

Hahaha.  Is this The Onion?
(10-31-2012, 04:53 PM)Walty Wrote: [ -> ]
Quote:Family therapist Virginia Satir confirms, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

What does this even mean?  Four hugs a day for survival?  There have been many times in my life when I've received a heck of a lot less than 4 hugs a day.  I'm still alive.

You could, dead shell of a man.

Cry
Hugs a sacrament? Here we go...
I really dislike hugging, especially if it is a stranger or mere acquaintance.  I am creeped out by that article.
(10-31-2012, 05:18 PM)JayneK Wrote: [ -> ]I really dislike hugging, especially if it is a stranger or mere acquaintance.  I am creeped out by that article.

Caught you red-handed, Jayne!



...what a liberal hippy! 
(10-31-2012, 04:53 PM)Walty Wrote: [ -> ]Some of the more memorable quotes:

Quote:Kids told their parents, “I want to go to the 9 o’clock Mass so I can get my hug.”

Fr. Friendly and parents teaching kids the real importance of the Mass.

Quote:Family therapist Virginia Satir confirms, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

What does this even mean?  Four hugs a day for survival?  There have been many times in my life when I've received a heck of a lot less than 4 hugs a day.  I'm still alive
.

Quote:Pastoral ministers will tell you that hugs are as essential to their tool kits as holy water.

That explains all their success, especially with the not-a-middle-aged-woman crowd.

Quote:An old saying goes, “A hug is a universal medicine. It is how we handshake from the heart.”

Hahaha.  Is this The Onion?


Last time I checked, hugs were not included in  life support.
(10-31-2012, 05:26 PM)Joamy Wrote: [ -> ]
(10-31-2012, 04:53 PM)Walty Wrote: [ -> ]Some of the more memorable quotes:

Quote:Kids told their parents, “I want to go to the 9 o’clock Mass so I can get my hug.”

Fr. Friendly and parents teaching kids the real importance of the Mass.

Quote:Family therapist Virginia Satir confirms, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

What does this even mean?  Four hugs a day for survival?  There have been many times in my life when I've received a heck of a lot less than 4 hugs a day.  I'm still alive
.

Quote:Pastoral ministers will tell you that hugs are as essential to their tool kits as holy water.

That explains all their success, especially with the not-a-middle-aged-woman crowd.

Quote:An old saying goes, “A hug is a universal medicine. It is how we handshake from the heart.”

Hahaha.  Is this The Onion?


Last time I checked, hugs were not included in  life support.

You are obviously a self-hating woman who doesn't want your fellow females to receive these life-saving hugs!

And clearly Walty is in some sort of denial.  That's the only possible explanation for not supporting hugs 100%.  Hugs are, after all, the new sacrament that has replaced confession, which we don't do anymore.
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