10-14-2019, 09:23 AM
So I joined this forum a while ago and then my life fell apart so I kinda left. But now I'm in sore need of prayers or advice.
The abridged version is, I got married three years ago to a man who, while not Catholic, said he agreed to marry a Catholic girl (me) and was in agreement to most of the teachings of the Catholic church, and he'd be willing to convert in his own good time, blah blah blah, which was fine. We went to pre-Cana counseling for six months and got married by my priest. This was all after four years of dating.
Fast forward to now. We have two children together. A few months ago my husband said he wants a divorce. He said he's tired of marriage and just wants to be free. He has started doing things that I would never have imagined him capable of because he never even hinted at "being that kind of person" while we were dating. During these last few months, I have found out that he lied to me pretty much during our entire relationship, hiding important details of his past from me which, while I'm not upset about what he *did*, I'm upset that he never allowed me to see the real him, and that he fooled me.
As of right now, he says he has lost his faith completely--he doesn't believe that Jesus is the Son of God, he doesn't believe that God has a personal interest in any of us, etc. He says he blames me and my Catholicism for his loss of faith. This is something I can barely wrap my mind around.
There's a lot of hurtful things happening to my family right now and details that I don't want to go into, but if you all could pray for my children, specifically--that they don't have to grow up in a fractured family, that God can somehow preserve their love of their faith despite their father's influence. Edit: kiddos are two and a half and six months, so...it's not like they know. But they'll grow up eventually.
Also...did God ordain this split between my husband and I? Is it really okay if I just disengage and just pray about all of this happening instead of trying to chain my husband down and keep him with us? I read "Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence", and while it helped, I am filled with so much doubt and fear. I really don't know how any of this could have happened. I tried to do everything "right" while dating, and it's all blown up in my face. What do I do now?
Anyway. Thanks for reading my ramble. God bless all of you.
The abridged version is, I got married three years ago to a man who, while not Catholic, said he agreed to marry a Catholic girl (me) and was in agreement to most of the teachings of the Catholic church, and he'd be willing to convert in his own good time, blah blah blah, which was fine. We went to pre-Cana counseling for six months and got married by my priest. This was all after four years of dating.
Fast forward to now. We have two children together. A few months ago my husband said he wants a divorce. He said he's tired of marriage and just wants to be free. He has started doing things that I would never have imagined him capable of because he never even hinted at "being that kind of person" while we were dating. During these last few months, I have found out that he lied to me pretty much during our entire relationship, hiding important details of his past from me which, while I'm not upset about what he *did*, I'm upset that he never allowed me to see the real him, and that he fooled me.
As of right now, he says he has lost his faith completely--he doesn't believe that Jesus is the Son of God, he doesn't believe that God has a personal interest in any of us, etc. He says he blames me and my Catholicism for his loss of faith. This is something I can barely wrap my mind around.
There's a lot of hurtful things happening to my family right now and details that I don't want to go into, but if you all could pray for my children, specifically--that they don't have to grow up in a fractured family, that God can somehow preserve their love of their faith despite their father's influence. Edit: kiddos are two and a half and six months, so...it's not like they know. But they'll grow up eventually.
Also...did God ordain this split between my husband and I? Is it really okay if I just disengage and just pray about all of this happening instead of trying to chain my husband down and keep him with us? I read "Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence", and while it helped, I am filled with so much doubt and fear. I really don't know how any of this could have happened. I tried to do everything "right" while dating, and it's all blown up in my face. What do I do now?
Anyway. Thanks for reading my ramble. God bless all of you.