10-07-2021, 08:20 AM
Quote:It isn't like the Catholic Church's position is that a spouse must remain in the same household as an abusive, unfaithful spouse. A civil divorce can be tolerated in such situations, though from the Church's perspective this is more like a permanent legal separation that protects the abused or abandoned spouse. If one wants to consider the marriage "dissolved" in some sense as a result of terrible sins, okay. But the problem is really the issue of remarriage, is it not? A sacramental marriage might in practice be dead, but the sacrament is still valid. It seems to me, and I'm not trying to look down on the Orthodox, that the Orthodox position is agreeing to divorce, even if it roots that agreement in a particular theological or pastoral reasoning. Thinking of it as dissolving a marriage doesn't change that, as even secular courts will often refer to divorce petitions as a petition for a dissolution of marriage.
Dear SeekerofChrist, thank you for your post. I have highlighted a few sentences that I think could be beneficial to help us locate the source of our differences.
Let me begin with your distinction between the sacramental marriage which "in practice" is dead and the "validity" of said marriage. I must admit that this line of reasoning is alien to me. I do not mean to insult you or come off as rude, but speaking of a "valid" sacrament that is de facto dead sounds like an abstraction to me; like an icon of Christ, with His face rubbed off its surface. When St. Paul speaks of marriage as a sacrament [sacramentum; μυστήριον/mystērion] in his letter to the Ephesians (5:32) for example, he clearly refers to a lived reality. What is a valid marriage, if the bond is broken?
In the Orthodox mindset, the bond between the spouses is very similar to that between the people and their Bishop, it is the mystery of the Church. We, as a people, should gather around our Bishop, as a manifestation of being One in Christ. If the Bishop becomes an apostate, however, we will no longer gather around him; he is defrocked. It takes a canonical trial to remove him, of course, just like it takes a canonical trial to declare a marriage dead, but the bond can and sometimes should be declared dissolved. We may install a new Bishop, despite the old one living in our city, being "validly" ordained, just like we may find someone new to start a family, despite our old spouse being alive.
I should also say that we Orthodox are not automatically allowed to remarry after the first marriage is broken, or after the death of our spouse. It is sometimes permitted, however, most often for pastoral reasons, to avoid greater evil. This tradition goes back to St. Basil the Great and the practices of his diocese in Caesarea. His letters (which has been transformed and widely used as canons in since the 6th century) tell us about the practice of readmitting a man to communion after his wife leaves him and he remarries. This tradition has since been built upon; it has influenced later canonical writings, as well as the civil legislation of the East Roman Empire.
Of course, in the West, St. Augustine became a much more influential figure. It is well known that he formulated a clear doctrine on the indissolubility of marriage and held on to the the current Latin interpretation of Scripture, which says that the Scriptural references to divorce may have authorized separation, but not remarriage. This tradition has, however, been able to co-exist with the Eastern one.