Traditional Catholic Wedding Dresses
#21
Also, go to the "craigslist" for phoenix/Glendale AZ and type in "temple ready" in the search bar. You will get more modest dresses then you can handle. That place is a HUGE Mormon area.
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#22
I lo[Image: heartsmiley.gif]ve the dresses on the beautifully modest website!
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#23
I don't know how to help you on the affordable front, but I recently had a traditional Catholic wedding in April and it was MURDER trying to find anything modest for under $3k.  My husband and I live in the NY Metropolitan area, so everything is expensive here, so at 6 months before our wedding date, I was getting very nervous.  Luckily, I found out that Jasmine and Casablanca Bridals do this service where you can select a gown design, and they'll alter the pattern to include sleeves, or a higher neckline.  This is the result:

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Here is what it looks like from the back:

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and the whole thing:

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I definitely second having a small wedding party.  It didn't save us a LOT of money, but it did make a difference.  My maid of honor is really crafty and found her bridesmaid outfit at Marshall's for under $60, and made her headpiece by hot-gluing a piece of tulle to a hairclip and pinning on a flower or two:

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#24
JubilateDeo83 Wrote:I don't know how to help you on the affordable front, but I recently had a traditional Catholic wedding in April and it was MURDER trying to find anything modest for under $3k. My husband and I live in the NY Metropolitan area, so everything is expensive here, so at 6 months before our wedding date, I was getting very nervous. Luckily, I found out that Jasmine and Casablanca Bridals do this service where you can select a gown design, and they'll alter the pattern to include sleeves, or a higher neckline.

I love that site!  I'm home sick in bed and have been playing Dress Designer!!!!!!!!  Your own dress was lovely [Image: smile.gif]
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#25
Satori Wrote:
shirhamalot Wrote:
Satori Wrote:I had a lovely wedding for about $2,000, so I'm your girl if you want to talk about how to make things cheaper.


Holy smokes, for real?? Do you care to share a budget you used? I am not looking at getting married for a couple of years, yet, but weddings, of course, fascinate me, and I don't forsee having a lot of money. How did you do it?

shirhamalot
These days people throw away a lot of money on venue -- they pay big bucks to get married some place scenic. Obviously, as Catholics we don't do that -- we get married in our own parishes, which saves a lot of money. However, a lot of Catholics still pay waaaay too much renting a place to have their reception and hiring a caterer. I did neither of those things. Since my parish doesn't have any sort of fellowship hall where we could celebrate after the wedding, a couple who are friends of my husband graciously offered us the use of their home. This was their wedding gift to us. They decorated using their own things and made the food themselves, which meant we actually got to eat things that tasted good. Unless you're going to invite a huge crowd that can't be accomodated by either a private home or church fellowship hall, you can do something like this. You or your fiance probably have a friend or relative with a big living and dining room who would be willing to let you use it if you ask. Even if you end up renting a space, though, you can still keep things cheaper by having your family or friends take care of the food instead of caterers (although some places that rent out their space for weddings will make you use their caterer, so check first!). I'm not talking about potluck, although I have friends whose budget was VERY tight who went that route. You can go some place like Costco or Sam's Club (do they have those in Canada?) and buy quite elegant hors d'oevres in bulk, you can make finger sandwiches and buy a whole lot of mixed nuts and candies, you can have a barbecue or roast a goat in a firepit on the front yard -- whatever. If you do it yourself, even if you decide to serve your guests expensive groceries, it'll still be cheaper than if you hired a professional catering company. Your mother, grandma, or auntie probably has a load of silver plate and a fancy punchbowl that you could use to display the goodies, and you can do what our foremothers did when they got married and ask your dearest friends to preside at said punchbowl or makeshift bar. It used to be considered an honor to serve drinks at someone's wedding.

I paid a friend who is a baker to make our wedding cake. Although it wasn't free, it only cost $130, which is cheap compared to what some professional bakeries charge. If you don't know someone who will cut you a deal or make you a cake as a wedding present, I suggest checking out the bakery at a good grocery store. It may not sound very special, but in my experience those bakeries make perfectly good cakes and decorate them beautifully for very reasonable prices, as long as you didn't want mocha amoretto with layers of marzipan, blown glass rose decorations, and sterling favors embedded in the top layer.

Professional photographers charge shameless amounts these days. I opted to forego their services, which didn't hurt me a bit because I hate the typical professional posed wedding photos anyway. My sister-in-law takes good pictures, so I bought a couple rolls of film and asked her to use them up and give them to me as a wedding gift. If you don't know anyone with this talent who'd be willing to use it on your behalf, I bet you could go to the art department at the nearest university and hire a photography student at a fraction of the cost of a professional. You might actually get some interesting pictures this way, too.

Decorations for the church? I bought not a ribbon -- well, except for the bows to mark the family pews. My parish is beautiful enough, and besides, I got married during the Christmas season. There were already special floral arrangements all over the church, not to mention the Italian creche and the beautiful brocade veil and wreath with which the statue of Our Lady had been adorned for the season. That's one of the reasons I decided to get married on New Year's Eve!

Obviously with my tight budget, there was no way I was going to spend money having invitations printed up. I could have done it REALLY cheaply by buying one of those invitation kits at a craft store and printing them up on my computer -- I think it costs about $30 for 50 invitations, or it did four years ago. However, I wanted something more elegant, so I opted to spend a little bit more and instead bought some very, very high-quality paper and lined envelopes and handwrote the invitations myself. (I have good handwriting, fortunately.) Those grotesquely expensive engraved invitations are just the mass-produced version of handwritten ones anyhow.

You can save yourself money and a headache by foregoing bridesmaids. I realize most women wouldn't want to do this, but honestly I think the whole bridesmaid thing is kind of stupid, so I just didn't have any. That meant I didn't have to buy a bouquet for anyone but myself. If you are really scraping together every last penny you can make this cheaper still by carrying a small clutch bouquet instead of the big trailing ones that brides more commonly carry. Who needs fountains of ivy and roses? You are a Catholic bride, and you can make your bouquet beautiful and unique by twining a special rosary in with the flowers.

Finally, if you or someone who loves you is going to make your wedding dress, before you go to the fabric store, check out an online store called the Dharma Trading Company. They sell various kinds of white silk very cheaply (and they care about where their stuff comes from and how the workers are treated, too).

(By the way, I said it above but I'll say it again: If you're making your dress and are concerned about modesty, don't overlook the costume patterns. I found the late medieval pattern for my dress in the Halloween section of a pattern catalog. You just have to look at all those brightly colored dresses with all of their gold trim and doodads and imagine how they would look made up in luxurious white bridal material with white lace and pearls.)

I hope this helps.

Good ideas. Weddings have become out of control and I'm hoping the pendulum starts swinging the other way.

Forgoing bridesmaids is a good idea or at least limit it to one.

You can also make your own bouquets. I've seen that come out really well.

Photographers are pricey...but so are the students! It unbelievable what some photography students want to charge you. My advice is make friends with art and photography students now. They might just gift their services to you.

Make your own invitations. I made my own and to this day, I still love them. (they were black and white toile with vellum overlay and black ribbon.)

Do not blow all your money on the dress. I've seen so many girls do this and they regret it. At least the ones who aren't too embarrassed to admit it. I bought my dress on ebay for $200. It was a good dress. Not my dream dress but you wear it once so who cares?

It is also crazy what caterers will charge you for dried out chicken cordon bleu. Bleh. Many of the reception halls gouge you too and many of them require you to use their caterer. I started making some calls and realized that many really good restaurants have banquet rooms and their prices per plate where comparable, if not cheaper, than the typical wedding reception hall. So for my wedding, I actually picked my favorite restaurant. It is a really nice, old school, art deco establishment so it didn't need any decorations (much better looking than most of the cheesy halls) - linens, plates, centerpieces and service were all included. And because you know the restaurant, you KNOW the food is good. I got married 4 years ago and people STILL talk to me about the food.

I also got my cake through the restaurant because they got it from the same bakery I would use anyway. This saved a ton of money too because if I got my own cake, they would charge me a cake cutting fee per person.

I know you didn't ask me and its a little off topic but I'm a freelance party planner and I had to put my 2 cents in. ;)
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#26
JubilateDeo83,

Your dress is beautiful and I'm a big fan of bridesmaids dresses that can actually be worn apart from the wedding.

I always get stuck with the most hideous dresses that assure me that my friends do indeed hate me.
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#27
We weren't Catholic when we got married - but we spent less than $1,000.

We got married by a notary in my parents' living room (remember we weren't Catholic).  We both wore tuxedos, rented for the occasion (I was not about to spend hundreds of dollars on a dress I'd only wear once and I liked the matching tux idea).  We had a small family and close friends reception at my parents' house.  We had it catered by a small family owned Cuban restaurant.  We bought a sheet cake at a very high end bakery but didn't go for the multiple tiers or anything.

Then we spent a long weekend at Disney (which is where we had our first date).

Under $1,500 including our very modest honeymoon.

It was then, and is now, about the marriage and not the wedding for us.  The only thing I would change now is to get married in a church by a priest.  But I'd leave everything else pretty much the same.

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#28
SouthernCatholic Wrote:We both wore tuxedos, rented for the occasion (I was not about to spend hundreds of dollars on a dress I'd only wear once and I liked the matching tux idea).

You wore a tux?!!  Can you post a picture?  Pleeeeeease?
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#29
ErinIsNotNice Wrote:You wore a tux?!!  Can you post a picture?  Pleeeeeease?

Please, don't. I beg you!
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#30
ErinIsNotNice Wrote:
SouthernCatholic Wrote:We both wore tuxedos, rented for the occasion (I was not about to spend hundreds of dollars on a dress I'd only wear once and I liked the matching tux idea).

You wore a tux?!!  Can you post a picture?  Pleeeeeease?

If I can get my scanner to work I'll scan and post a photo.  I wore a black tux coat (I'm really pale and white makes me look sickly) and Dh wore a white tux coat.  We both wore Mikey Mouse themed vests and bow ties.

It was comfortable.  It was cheap (that was a big consideration since we paid for our own wedding).  And it was fun.
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