Aspergers and ADHD
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OK, well, our daughter was "different". Various frightening events led to us seeking a Dr.'s help, and she underwent a 4-hour testing, during which her dad and I just prayed and tried to breathe. It was interesting; they said she had Asperger's and ADHD, and sent us to a kid's Psych. Dr. specializing in that; they also graciously allowed us to borrow a stack of books from their parents' resource library.

It became clear to me that not only does my daughter have these, but both of her parents do, too. When we went to the Psychologist, he sat us down (child was coloring in the next room) and immediately assured us that, since we were both "high-functioning", she would no doubt be alright. I was blown away; all my life, I have had "issues"; but since I was also gifted in various ways, I got by alright. As someone pointed out, after puberty, it's easier. But I had never known there was a name for all of the experience that made up my life; or that my husband and I could so casually be diagnosed after a few minutes with a professional.

My husband is a painter (artist) and is chair of a big University Art dept. He hates being dept. chair! But he was asked to fill in for a year or two, twice; he was like the bank worker mentioned, always careful to do a good job, honest, dependable, selfless. So they made him offers until it was too much to refuse: the house needed some work, being 170 years old! I went to a Catholic College that my parents selected, right out of h.s., even though for various reasons I felt unready socially and emotionally. I was a Philosophy major and Music (voice) minor; after 2 years, I left to get a degree in Culinary Arts; because I needed job skills. I was another hard worker, focused and intelligent; I did some really awesome things.

LaRoza is also gifted in making things (his beautiful rosaries!!! that he makes lovingly as an act of oblation and offers free! His is a beautiful soul, folks; I have been laid up with a painful scoliosis-related problem, for weeks, and found his free-rosary ad, and "about me" stuff. The kid is only 20! So I sent him a cheery encouragement, thanking him for his generosity. (Called him a girl, because he was evasive in the required field "gender".) So, we had a good bit of email activity, during which I made myself a little tiresome; look at the length of THIS reply! I have nothing to do until it's time to take my next muscle relaxant. Besides pray, and bother my fellow fisheaters. When I realized I had been overdoing it, and apologized, he was gracious, gentle, and gallant about it. Christ our Lord wouldn't have answered differently. And he of course said he was always there, but perhaps I would enjoy joining Fisheaters? (so, blame him:) )

LaRoza is a brilliant programmer! He knows, I would guess Everything. Right now, like half the population, he is looking for a job. He stints himself on food in order to pay for his rosary supplies, and he gives the rosaries away free. He prays a lot, and leads a rather Spartan existence. Listen, you guys: once the scales have fallen from your eyes, you can read the lives of the saints and find AS over and over again. Great self-donation; living what they believe instead of talking; great humility (lack of social ease helps make a person retiring and contemplative); super-sensitivity; perceptiveness and spiritual giftedness.

Look for Aspies among the saints and mystics; look for and find them among all of the people you know who are gifted in such diverse areas as electronics, art, music, mathematics, philosophty, theology, the non-diocesan clergy and cloistered orders; as well as writers, physicists, and fine craftsmen of every sort. That lady who teaches Latin in my daughter's homeschool group, and who plays in the symphony (3 instruments) is an Aspie, though she doesn't know it. Have a favorite glassblower or actor, filmmaker, composer, conductor, poet, calligrapher? Most likely, an Aspie. You've heard that Einstein, Edison, Beethoven, and Mozart were Aspies; that is only the tip of the iceberg. Beatrix potter? All of the poets, maybe; maybe most painters; Tasha Tudor, the Brontes... They think outside of the box, are often extra-perceptive/intuitive/sensitive; and are brilliant and often amazingly creative. YOU might have a touch of AS, if you test as an introvert and are addicted to reading and learning new things, or going deep in one area; especially if your home is either cluttery and full of books, or just about empty (an Aspie way of living that helps you keep it neat).

The way many see it, God has made (out of very many) one type of person who is both thwarted and suffers, and is driven back upon him/herself, into contemplation and introspection...and who is simultaneously brilliant and with great potential. Take a person with potential and let that person be outside the loop socially, and it just provides a lot of time for him to develop in amazing ways; IF he has even minimal support. I say, if your kid is an Aspie, let him explore music and art (a few painting/drawing lessons, no kits!) and math, give him a computer; isolate a natural interest in something, and encourage it. Parents who revile the child and push him away, without encouraging in some positive path, can create a lifetime of substance abuse, perhaps, or worse. I don't know what proportion of the people were AS kids who wound up on the street because their parents didn't know how to "handle" them, and they fell into bad company.

Still reading, intrepid fisheater? Thanks, I'm almost done :)

That said, just 2 more things remain. I'd like to apologize to DeiMaterAlma, about the avatar attack. I seem to have to make a mistake in order to learn from it. (No, that's not true; there are many I isolated ahead of time and kept clear of). And, I am new to online... Anyway, NOW I realize that I could have sent a private message. And since I was publicly ugly, I'd like to publicly apologize: mea maxima culpa! I am so sorry. I didn't MEAN to be obnoxious, who would? I have a small cadre of permanent friends, of the lifelong and devoted sort, but I'm not socially adept enough to be "popular", here or anywhere. And, I'm not studyin' it. Anyway, I regret it deeply when I hurt someone, and absolutely never would do it on purpose. I'm hoping DeiMaterAlma and all of you 'eaters will forgive me, for that and the Lord knows what else. For foisting my opinions on you. All of it.

Last, and best: people with AS, ADHD, Allergies, and Asthma, all suffer from the same root causes and all can be helped!!! Many become"normal" (but keep their brilliance and abilities; they are enhanced by the improved mental, social, and physical function. Read "Healing the New Childhood Epidemics", by Kenneth Bock, MD and Cameron Stauth. It is new; and groundbreaking, proven help. As an act of charity, some might wish to buy it, and after reading, offer it to friends. Or to their family doctor (who might be an Aspie!) Another act of charity some might contemplate is to make a donation of any size to LaRoza. Maybe he'll let me put his address here. Then again, maybe I'm stepping on toes again, big time. But the guy really is so poor that I was shocked when he said he'd pay someone for a ride to TLM.


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Aspergers and ADHD - by VoxClamantis - 08-22-2008, 05:53 AM
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Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 09-02-2008, 10:43 AM
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