Aspergers and ADHD
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Perhaps I should share a little information on how my view of the world progressed so my statements may make more sense (especially about teenagers).

When I was little, I was a skinny slightly short kid. I was physically active, but not when in school (I preferred to read on the playground). Kids would tease me I think, but I didn't realise it or care and it was just the way things were. I also spent a lot of time reading and learning and very little time with other people (considering how other people treated me, avoiding them was a good policy). Around 3d grade, I was noticed for my academic ability, so during the next few years (up to 8th grade), the focus was on learning and studying only. I had no desire to socialise. People still teased me, but I didn't mind.

Then, I started to mature physically, yet my emotional maturity was slow, so I ended up growing up while having an immature social view. I decided that for high school I would dress better and decided to wear clothes which are more "formal" (but they aren't really formal). I also had decided I wanted to join the military when I was 13 and had spent a lot of time training myself to be physically fit (I had read a very good article in reader's digest about the physical aspect which was daunting to me at the time, so I wanted to start early). So, by the time I was in high school, I had grown a lot, was very fit and dressed rather neat, but I had not emotionally matured and was essentially the same as I had always been in that regard. The first day of high school I was mistaken for a senior by a reporter. Also, many of the other "kids" "teased" me, mostly girls. I ignored them as I have always done and didn't care. As long as they didn't take my stuff or hurt me, I didn't care what they said. However, I didn't realise they weren't teasing me. What they were actually doing wouldn't be realised for about 2 years. Also keep in mind I was Catholic then as well. I was never that talkative, so most people actually didn't realise what I thought and was probably just thought to be shy (I suppose, I never talked with them much) When emotional understanding did come, I was shocked. First, I realised that the teasing I had experienced was not just "the way it was", but a choice on their part. I also realised that all those who "teased" me in high school were not teasing me, they were flirting and making lewd propositions about which they were serious. Also, the newfound respect I had from various people, was a result of my physical and mental abilities, which were not really "me". People teased me when I was short and uninformed, people respected me when I was fit and smart. People, in my view, were very shallow and I resented them because of the way they treated me.

During this time, I had met others who had AS or AS like personalities and I had always gotten along with them. So is it any surprise I have any vestigial disdain for NTs as a whole? Now, as I've grown and learned, I'm much better at interacting with NTs and NTs mellow after a while from being teenagers so we don't have any conflicts (I see a lot of people I knew from childhood, but they don't know me I think, and they treat me very differently). We are all somewhat slaves to our personality (an NT can't help be what they are any more than an AS) it seems.

More importantly, during all this time, no one ever actually helped me learn about other people. I had to do it myself. I did see a few psychologists, but even they didn't give me useful information. Telling me to look people in the eyes when talking or listening to them is of limited use. Telling me why I should, to avoid giving a negative wrong impression would have been much more useful.

My experience is my experience and it tells me I'm better off with AS than NT, even if the first 17 years of my life were confusing.
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Aspergers and ADHD - by VoxClamantis - 08-22-2008, 05:53 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by kjvail - 08-22-2008, 09:17 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 08-22-2008, 10:37 AM
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Aspergers and ADHD - by kjvail - 09-02-2008, 08:08 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 09-02-2008, 10:21 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by kjvail - 09-02-2008, 10:28 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 09-02-2008, 10:43 AM
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Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-01-2009, 09:21 PM
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Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-06-2009, 03:08 AM
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