Aspergers and ADHD
(07-28-2009, 01:23 PM)devotedknuckles Wrote: seems to me from voxpops posts its his son that is making everyone else uncomfortable not the other way around. i dunno tough issue. medical condition sure but so is almost anything. hell even a psychopath can claim medical condition. what im saying is voxpop has said he was thinkin of tossing the kid out due to his behavior. at 18 i think that might be a good thing.  a family member of mine was a junkie. medical condition (according to gov), even got 1300 a month from the Canadian gov due to his addiction being termed a  disability. this even when he still lived at home. but his ass was beat and he was thrown out for being as little scumbag. stealing from his very own mama my aunt!!!!! his own mama he stole from. THE CREEP! the bastard! medical condition or not it didnt save him from me families wrath. he was tossed out and the world took its time with him. hes clean now but it took 12 years and an o.d. to finally get the loser to see his behavior the selfish prick he is has something called consequences. im not saying asperger is the same but the behavior voxpop described really sounded like me cousin.
but he changed. though now the piece of shit is an unrepentant sodomite in Vancouver i don't think what i posted was mainly nonsense it seemed to work for this loser when no talk shop or meds did. just sayin. also again the behavior seemed very similar.

The problem with his son seems to be avoidance of his father, not doing anything dangerous or harmful otherwise.

The reason for this may be because of a severe misunderstanding of him, which could have inadvertently hurt him a lot, which causes him to avoid his father. Now that the father has more understanding, he is trying to repair the relationship for the good of both of them, but his son may not realise this because of the past.

The medical condition to which I refer is not AS, but anxiety, depression, anger, PTSD like symptoms. He may also be more severe (most people with AS can realise it on their own if they know of it) or involve other factors. If one were to stop supporting someone with a form of autism while they had unresolved issues with the world, it would be almost  criminal abuse to do that. As Vox said, he didn't know about it when he was raising him, so all that time when he could have been helped is lost and he may be at a severe disadvantage and have a very disfunctional view of the world based on his experiences.

This is a case of a boy/man who underwent severe stress and hardship for years based on misunderstanding by a person who loves him, not some spoiled kid. If he uses his experiences with his father as the basis for further social interaction (as I noted earlier, people with AS often use their most common social situation, usually a parent, as the basis for all social interaction), it would be a negligent  act to send a person into the world without any proper guidance, especially when the past resulted in unfavourable or counter productive guidance.

If his past and personal disadvantages are ignored, it is quite possible that he won't live well alone and probably end up the victim of a crime or dead. A father should not resign their child to that especially when they have the capability to help. The difference is the reason for his behavior. Why would a son shun his father by choice? You have no way of knowing what he is feeling unless he says it. I know a child (he was 12 at the time) who broke his arm, but didn't tell anyone. He just didn't think to tell anyone. I tore a muscle or tendon in my back (rotator cuff area, not sure which) when I was a child, but I didn't tell anyone either. He could be holding in more pain than you realise. Assuming NT communication with AS is the biggest danger. He isn't like you or any NT, so don't expect him to be like you. A person with AS will not think to tell others of their feelings unless they understand that peson can help, and that understanding usually comes from being taught it. So far, it seems he was taught to avoid his father by his father's reactions to him. He is just doing what he was taught...
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Aspergers and ADHD - by VoxClamantis - 08-22-2008, 05:53 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by kjvail - 08-22-2008, 09:17 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 08-22-2008, 10:37 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by britmum - 09-01-2008, 10:45 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 09-02-2008, 02:11 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by jovan66102 - 09-02-2008, 03:52 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by ResiduumRevertetur - 09-02-2008, 08:01 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by kjvail - 09-02-2008, 08:08 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 09-02-2008, 10:21 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by kjvail - 09-02-2008, 10:28 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 09-02-2008, 10:43 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by ResiduumRevertetur - 09-02-2008, 10:44 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by mom - 09-02-2008, 03:03 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by ronyu02 - 09-03-2008, 09:01 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 09-03-2008, 06:07 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by ResiduumRevertetur - 09-03-2008, 06:12 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by JesusFreak84 - 09-04-2008, 11:55 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 12-31-2008, 03:38 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 12-31-2008, 06:14 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 12-31-2008, 06:35 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 12-31-2008, 06:38 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 12-31-2008, 06:52 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 01-01-2009, 11:53 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by AdoramusTeChriste - 01-01-2009, 07:57 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-01-2009, 09:21 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by AdoramusTeChriste - 01-01-2009, 09:32 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-01-2009, 09:41 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by AdoramusTeChriste - 01-01-2009, 10:16 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-01-2009, 10:21 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by AdoramusTeChriste - 01-01-2009, 10:37 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-01-2009, 11:24 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Quaesumus - 01-01-2009, 11:33 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-01-2009, 11:37 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Quaesumus - 01-02-2009, 02:09 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 01-02-2009, 05:12 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-02-2009, 05:14 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-02-2009, 05:18 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by WhollyRoaminCatholic - 01-02-2009, 05:26 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 01-02-2009, 07:07 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Stephanos - 01-02-2009, 07:12 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by orate - 01-02-2009, 07:19 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-02-2009, 08:25 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by bluecarmel - 01-02-2009, 09:21 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-02-2009, 09:45 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-02-2009, 09:55 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 01-04-2009, 10:28 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-05-2009, 12:00 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by mom - 01-05-2009, 07:30 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-05-2009, 07:55 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Melita - 01-05-2009, 08:09 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-05-2009, 08:17 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Melita - 01-05-2009, 08:21 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-05-2009, 08:41 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 01-05-2009, 10:57 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by AdoramusTeChriste - 01-05-2009, 11:41 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by mom - 01-06-2009, 12:51 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by mom - 01-06-2009, 12:52 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by mom - 01-06-2009, 01:03 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-06-2009, 03:08 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-06-2009, 03:15 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-06-2009, 03:16 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 01-06-2009, 09:10 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-06-2009, 01:06 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by VoxClamantis - 01-17-2009, 09:06 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-17-2009, 09:16 PM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-18-2009, 06:23 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-18-2009, 06:37 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-18-2009, 07:56 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by somerset76 - 01-18-2009, 09:24 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-18-2009, 10:05 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by somerset76 - 01-18-2009, 10:37 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 01-18-2009, 10:45 AM
Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 01-18-2009, 07:36 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Lee Timmer - 07-25-2009, 04:09 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-25-2009, 04:43 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 07-25-2009, 06:11 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-25-2009, 06:35 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 07-25-2009, 07:21 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-25-2009, 08:24 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-25-2009, 08:27 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Joamy - 07-25-2009, 08:42 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by libby - 07-25-2009, 08:43 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by WhollyRoaminCatholic - 07-26-2009, 02:11 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-26-2009, 02:24 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 07-26-2009, 02:56 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by ResiduumRevertetur - 07-26-2009, 03:36 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by orate - 07-26-2009, 03:46 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by libby - 07-26-2009, 04:09 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-26-2009, 04:30 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-26-2009, 04:47 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-26-2009, 05:25 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Melita - 07-26-2009, 05:38 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-26-2009, 05:46 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 07-27-2009, 06:16 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 07-27-2009, 08:36 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by WhollyRoaminCatholic - 07-27-2009, 09:42 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 10:40 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 11:01 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by ResiduumRevertetur - 07-27-2009, 11:36 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 11:48 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 07-27-2009, 11:49 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 12:14 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 12:43 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by orate - 07-27-2009, 01:21 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 07-27-2009, 02:33 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 02:37 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by ResiduumRevertetur - 07-27-2009, 02:41 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 02:48 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 04:05 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Melita - 07-27-2009, 04:09 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 04:12 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Satori - 07-27-2009, 04:35 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 04:52 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 05:02 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-27-2009, 07:31 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 07:34 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-27-2009, 09:45 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-27-2009, 10:18 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 07-27-2009, 10:43 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-27-2009, 11:16 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 07-27-2009, 11:41 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 12:18 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 12:21 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 07-28-2009, 12:27 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 12:28 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 12:30 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Dust - 07-28-2009, 02:15 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Dust - 07-28-2009, 02:15 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by voxpopulisuxx - 07-28-2009, 08:34 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 11:50 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 12:47 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by orate - 07-28-2009, 12:57 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by devotedknuckles - 07-28-2009, 01:23 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Historian - 07-28-2009, 01:34 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by DarkKnight - 07-28-2009, 05:33 PM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Dust - 07-29-2009, 05:15 AM
Re: Aspergers and ADHD - by Veronica - 08-07-2009, 08:10 AM
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