Could use advice about anxiety
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I have lived with very stress-inducing people before, and one thing that helped was having a safe outlet. Sometimes a friend's behavior would truly be out of line, but my first thought would be "oh shoot, I shouldn't be angry. It is always illegitimate for me to be angry." That brilliant strategy led to frustration and resentment, as one might imagine. Things got somewhat better when I found someone with whom I could talk about the situation without badmouthing and without risk of hurting my badly-behaving friend. Just hearing someone else say that it was understandable that I would feel frustrated or annoyed with this person's behavior was helpful. It finally sank in that being frustrated or annoyed didn't mean that I hated the person or that I was totally devoid of virtue, it just meant that I was feeling hurt or disrespected in some situation. Then I could just acknowledge it and move on without letting things ferment.

Trying to figure out this person's behavior patterns and the probable reasons behind them helped too. It's almost funny how predictable people can be. Knowing what's coming and why can also makes it easier to cope.

As far as more general stress-busting things go... sometimes just sitting in a chair listening to the sound of my own [deep] breathing and trying to still some of the mental chatter can be helpful. More visual forms of prayer, or prayer as a form of "just being there" helps too. I don't know about you, but I tend to stew over things, so just putting a stop to that whole endless percolating process can make a big difference.

Best of luck to you! If you happen upon any particularly good ways of dealing with the situation, please share! :-)
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Could use advice about anxiety - by Inion_Coinin - 05-12-2009, 07:40 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by Satori - 05-12-2009, 10:24 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by libby - 05-12-2009, 11:38 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by Tinuviel - 05-12-2009, 11:59 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by Historian - 05-13-2009, 01:14 AM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by Historian - 05-13-2009, 08:55 AM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by Joamy - 05-21-2009, 07:51 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by geogeer - 05-21-2009, 08:04 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by Iolanthe - 05-27-2009, 11:03 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by cgraye - 05-27-2009, 11:54 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by waiting4u - 06-23-2009, 01:02 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by kzarah - 06-24-2009, 01:20 AM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by cathalex - 06-24-2009, 11:21 PM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by libby - 06-25-2009, 12:04 AM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by cathalex - 06-25-2009, 01:41 AM
Re: Could use advice about anxiety - by libby - 06-25-2009, 11:38 AM



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