04-20-2010, 07:50 PM
I think you've got to give people a chance to warm up to the TLM. It's pretty foreign to Catholics raised in the Novus Ordo, and they've been told a lot of scary things about it. If she weren't willing to go, that'd be one thing; but if she's willing to try it, who knows, maybe she'll love it. I know one couple where the wife started going to RCIA because she wanted to date the guy and he wouldn't date a non-Catholic, and now she's at least as traditional as he is. If you don't have a pool of traditional women in your area to pick from, odds are you're going to have to find someone who's open to it.