How to convert her??
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(04-20-2010, 10:24 PM)crusaderfortruth3372 Wrote: As as far as the contraception is concerned, she only uses them for her medical reproductive reasons... We are both chaste and plan on being that way  until marriage, if God wills it!!

I think we all understood this. Good of you to reaffirm and be assured of prayers for continued chastity. Such requires, especially in our culture, lots of virtue.

From before, I made a suggestion that discussing contraception (if it needs to be done) could be done easily by tactfully mentioning the medical use of a contraceptive for other purposes. Clearly there's no moral issue for a celibate woman to take a contraceptive. However, I would consider some problems you might encounter and your various discussions might eventually highlight these. Clearly, if married, a woman would have to completely stop using such contraceptives. If there is a medical issue that would be a problem with out the hormones, then is it possible for her to stop using the pill? If so, then practically, is it good for her now?

My though, an extension from earlier, is that if her doctor is prescribing contraceptives, he is likely not a Catholic doctor (or at least likely doesn't follow the Church doctrine). Obviously here it's not a moral issue, but most Catholic doctors I know won't even prescribe contraceptives for chaste women, so it's my hypothesis here. If married, would this doctor continue to recommend the contraceptives or would the doctor modify any needed treatment? Is the pill actually necessary now? Are giving up the benefits going to be a problem in marriage?

It's a touchy subject, but a few poignant questions along these lines might be addressed at the appropriate moment. Last you would want is a woman who has been living in a chaste manner, but using contraceptives to ease reproductive difficulties to enter marriage, intend to stop using the contraceptives and then find that she's unwilling to tolerate the negative effects of abandoning the drug and either suffers greatly for it (making married life difficult), or goes back on the contraceptives (making it into a moral issue).

Anyway, just some thoughts, since I've dealt with a similar situation before.

Best of luck and of course prayers for you and your lady!
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How to convert her?? - by crusaderfortruth3372 - 04-20-2010, 04:36 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-20-2010, 04:38 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by HotRod - 04-20-2010, 04:48 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by The_Harlequin_King - 04-20-2010, 04:53 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-20-2010, 04:58 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by cgraye - 04-20-2010, 05:10 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by cgraye - 04-20-2010, 05:22 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Walty - 04-20-2010, 05:27 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-20-2010, 05:36 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-20-2010, 05:37 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by JayneK - 04-20-2010, 05:45 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-20-2010, 06:02 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by HotRod - 04-20-2010, 06:39 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-20-2010, 06:58 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-20-2010, 07:09 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-20-2010, 07:16 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by HotRod - 04-20-2010, 07:42 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Mhoram - 04-20-2010, 07:50 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by TraceG - 04-20-2010, 07:55 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-20-2010, 08:00 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-20-2010, 08:11 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by MagisterMusicae - 04-20-2010, 08:35 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-20-2010, 08:42 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by JayneK - 04-20-2010, 08:49 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by MagisterMusicae - 04-20-2010, 09:44 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by MagisterMusicae - 04-21-2010, 02:50 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by ggreg - 04-21-2010, 06:04 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Mhoram - 04-21-2010, 10:31 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-21-2010, 10:41 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-21-2010, 10:44 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by CollegeCatholic - 04-21-2010, 11:17 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by The_Harlequin_King - 04-21-2010, 12:48 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by amasimp - 04-21-2010, 01:21 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-21-2010, 01:35 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by amasimp - 04-21-2010, 01:42 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by CollegeCatholic - 04-21-2010, 02:39 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-21-2010, 03:25 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-21-2010, 05:48 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Dust - 04-21-2010, 10:26 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Baskerville - 04-21-2010, 10:32 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Baskerville - 04-21-2010, 10:36 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by ggreg - 04-22-2010, 11:48 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by ggreg - 04-22-2010, 11:49 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-22-2010, 12:00 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-22-2010, 12:35 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-22-2010, 12:44 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Mhoram - 04-22-2010, 02:18 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-22-2010, 02:47 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-22-2010, 03:03 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-22-2010, 03:04 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-22-2010, 03:21 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-22-2010, 04:04 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-22-2010, 04:08 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by HotRod - 04-22-2010, 04:10 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Bonifacius - 04-22-2010, 04:23 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by ggreg - 04-22-2010, 05:12 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by amasimp - 04-22-2010, 05:18 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-22-2010, 05:31 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-22-2010, 05:45 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-22-2010, 05:54 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-22-2010, 05:59 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by The_Harlequin_King - 04-22-2010, 06:00 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-22-2010, 06:38 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by HotRod - 04-22-2010, 08:09 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by ggreg - 04-23-2010, 08:03 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by HotRod - 04-23-2010, 09:12 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by ggreg - 04-23-2010, 11:43 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-23-2010, 11:59 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Augstine Baker - 04-23-2010, 12:15 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-23-2010, 12:42 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Augstine Baker - 04-23-2010, 02:17 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-23-2010, 03:06 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Vetus Ordo - 04-23-2010, 03:09 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-23-2010, 03:09 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Vetus Ordo - 04-23-2010, 03:24 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-23-2010, 03:38 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by CollegeCatholic - 04-23-2010, 03:41 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by amasimp - 04-23-2010, 03:46 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by James02 - 04-23-2010, 04:20 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Mhoram - 04-23-2010, 04:31 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Augstine Baker - 04-23-2010, 04:35 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by amasimp - 04-23-2010, 04:37 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-23-2010, 04:38 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Historian - 04-23-2010, 04:41 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-23-2010, 08:24 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Augstine Baker - 04-23-2010, 09:29 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-23-2010, 10:11 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Satori - 04-23-2010, 11:33 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by CollegeCatholic - 04-24-2010, 01:07 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by CollegeCatholic - 04-24-2010, 01:12 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Augstine Baker - 04-24-2010, 01:31 AM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-24-2010, 03:12 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Augstine Baker - 04-26-2010, 06:45 PM
Re: How to convert her?? - by Iolanthe - 04-26-2010, 09:06 PM



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