Spousal Contraception Qs
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(11-16-2011, 02:11 PM)Mithrandylan Wrote:
NewYorkCatholic Wrote:Even if the other spouse knows, I think it's possible to still have marital relations, as long as you are not approving the contraception ...  but yes, before anyone applies this in their own life, talk to a priest.  I just don't think a cut-and-dry "you must abstain" is always the right answer.  Sex is a duty in marriage.

Yes, and after you talk to the priest, could you please have him explain the reasoning behind how it isn't a mortal sin, because that just blows my mind.  Sex is a duty insofar as it is open to life- sex with the use of a contraceptive is never a fulfillment of the marriage debt because it is contrary to the nature of the marriage, ie, openness to life.
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It's not a mortal sin because you can't always control what your spouse is doing.  If my wife wanted to committ the sin of gluttony (silly example), I could not buy food to prevent this, or I could buy food despite her gluttony.  My duty to provide for her greatly outweighs my duty to avoid helping her committ that sin. 

I'm sure we can come up with other examples, but the basic principles are that though it's not at all ideal and should be discussed and addressed, the husband is not sinning if the wife is taking the pill against his wishes, and the husband then withholding sex, given the importance of sex within marriage, is a severe recourse that is not required and can be damaging to the marriage.

I haven't found a traditional source to quote on this yet, but I'm looking.
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Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-15-2011, 02:54 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by K3vinhood - 11-15-2011, 03:07 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by K3vinhood - 11-15-2011, 03:23 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-15-2011, 03:24 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-15-2011, 03:39 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-15-2011, 03:45 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-15-2011, 04:14 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-15-2011, 07:10 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-15-2011, 07:15 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-15-2011, 07:32 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Adam_Michael - 11-15-2011, 08:22 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-15-2011, 08:26 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-15-2011, 08:41 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-15-2011, 08:43 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Adam_Michael - 11-15-2011, 08:52 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Adam_Michael - 11-15-2011, 08:52 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-15-2011, 11:37 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by OCLittleFlower - 11-16-2011, 06:36 AM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by SCG - 11-16-2011, 01:51 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Servire Deo - 11-16-2011, 01:55 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-16-2011, 01:57 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-16-2011, 01:57 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Servire Deo - 11-16-2011, 01:59 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by SCG - 11-16-2011, 02:06 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 02:11 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-16-2011, 02:20 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Ray M Facere - 11-16-2011, 03:01 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-16-2011, 03:03 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 03:04 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Ray M Facere - 11-16-2011, 03:06 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 03:11 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-16-2011, 03:13 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by SCG - 11-16-2011, 03:13 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Servire Deo - 11-16-2011, 03:17 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 05:01 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 05:05 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Vetus Ordo - 11-16-2011, 05:14 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 05:20 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Jenn - 11-16-2011, 05:30 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Vetus Ordo - 11-16-2011, 05:49 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 06:02 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Jenn - 11-16-2011, 06:23 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-16-2011, 06:25 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 06:31 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 06:32 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-16-2011, 06:54 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-16-2011, 06:55 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Gris - 11-16-2011, 06:59 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-17-2011, 12:00 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-17-2011, 12:04 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-18-2011, 04:39 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-19-2011, 01:51 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-19-2011, 07:44 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Servire Deo - 11-19-2011, 07:56 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-19-2011, 08:26 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Scriptorium - 11-19-2011, 08:45 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Servire Deo - 11-19-2011, 08:48 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-21-2011, 01:55 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by LoneWolfRadTrad - 11-21-2011, 02:19 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-21-2011, 02:36 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by newyorkcatholic - 11-21-2011, 03:02 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Geremia - 11-21-2011, 04:09 PM
Re: Spousal Contraception Qs - by Mithrandylan - 11-21-2011, 04:19 PM



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