Resources for dealing with scrupulosity
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Background: I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Asperger Syndrome. As I mentioned to my priest, it is possible that someone could convince me that anything that is not a religious ritual is a sin.

Today I made my profession of faith and general confession to our TLM priest. I wrote down some of my sins, as he had recommended. As he was giving me counsel for the sins, I was deliberately trying not to think of other sins or things I thought might be sins that I might have done. A thought came in to my mind "I wish he would just hurry up with the absolution. I'm now worried that my whole confession was not valid because I was too embarrassed to confess that thought.

What are some good resources for those suffering from scrupulosity? And in order for something to be a mortal sin, does there need to be a sufficient amount of reflection first? As part of my OCD  I suffer from intrusive thoughts. Does it take more than just a few seconds for a thought to become a mortal sin?

I asked my priest about the scrupulosity and he said to focus on the Wedding at Cana - Jesus wasn't constantly pointing out people's sins but He was just attending the celebration.

Prayers would be good too please.
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#2
I would suggest reading this:

https://www.fisheaters.com/scruples.html

I also made a thread about this a while back with some advice:

http://www.fisheaters.com/forums/index.p...=3472236.0
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#3
Thanks very much for those. They are both very useful.

I've still got a niggling doubt that my confession yesterday (the first since 2011) was invalid because of the reasons mentioned above.
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(03-05-2017, 03:11 PM)MichaelNZ Wrote: Thanks very much for those. They are both very useful.

I've still got a niggling doubt that my confession yesterday (the first since 2011) was invalid because of the reasons mentioned above.

Me, I've never suffered from scruples, thank God, but have talked to many people with that problem over the years. I think some of it is related to obssessive-compulsive traits, which you admit to having problems with. My  hunch, as one looking at this problem from the outside, is that focusing on Christ's Love and Mercy would be helpful. Maybe praying the Divine Mercy chaplet could help you.

Above all, though, just getting the ideas into your head that 1) God isn't stupid, and 2) He isn't out to "get you" is key. HE KNOWS your heart. HE KNOWS your sins. HE KNOWS your intentions. And HE LOVES YOU more than anything! Imagine the best parent in the world, and then multiply that by a billion. When you start to get all scrupulous, focus on that. And relax. Follow those "Ten Commandments for the Scrupulous," read what I just wrote, and chill. TRUST HIM!
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(03-05-2017, 05:04 PM)Vox Clamantis Wrote: My  hunch, as one looking at this problem from the outside, is that focusing on Christ's Love and Mercy would be helpful. Maybe praying the Divine Mercy chaplet could help you.
This is another helpful point. Find a devotion that works for you and stick to it like glue. I would recommend only having a small handful of devotions and committing to them, rather than having a bunch of them. Try some prayers out and see what you gravitate towards. I can't emphasize enough the importance of the Rosary. Praying the Rosary dismantles so many sins in our lives. For me, I stick to that, the Holy Name of Jesus, and wear the Brown Scapular, and I enjoy spiritual reading and following along with the Mass. You may enjoy the Holy Face, Sacred Heart, Five Wounds, or going to Adoration regularly. There are so many to choose from. You may also like various Saint-based devotions, such as the Chaplet of St. Michael.

There's some overlap here because some prayers/devotions are also sacramentals, but I would also stick to a few of those. You may enjoy wearing the Brown Scapular but don't find yourself drawn to wearing the Miraculous Medal. The devotions and sacramentals you are drawn to and focus on are going to help in your holiness, and the ones another person chooses to focus on are going to help them. At the end of the day, they all point to the same Jesus. :)
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(03-05-2017, 07:40 PM)In His Love Wrote:
(03-05-2017, 05:04 PM)Vox Clamantis Wrote: My  hunch, as one looking at this problem from the outside, is that focusing on Christ's Love and Mercy would be helpful. Maybe praying the Divine Mercy chaplet could help you.
This is another helpful point. Find a devotion that works for you and stick to it like glue. I would recommend only having a small handful of devotions and committing to them, rather than having a bunch of them. Try some prayers out and see what you gravitate towards. I can't emphasize enough the importance of the Rosary. Praying the Rosary dismantles so many sins in our lives. For me, I stick to that, the Holy Name of Jesus, and wear the Brown Scapular, and I enjoy spiritual reading and following along with the Mass. You may enjoy the Holy Face, Sacred Heart, Five Wounds, or going to Adoration regularly. There are so many to choose from. You may also like various Saint-based devotions, such as the Chaplet of St. Michael.

There's some overlap here because some prayers/devotions are also sacramentals, but I would also stick to a few of those. You may enjoy wearing the Brown Scapular but don't find yourself drawn to wearing the Miraculous Medal. The devotions and sacramentals you are drawn to and focus on are going to help in your holiness, and the ones another person chooses to focus on are going to help them. At the end of the day, they all point to the same Jesus. :)

Thanks for that. I wear the Brown Scapular, Miraculous Medal and just yesterday got a Pardon Crucifix blessed that I have started wearing (thank you, Vox, for your information on this great sacramental!). I pray the Rosary daily and have started a devotion to the Seven Sorrows of the Blessed Virgin Mary
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