How do you deal with your sexual desire while you are abstaining during NFP?
#11
Fontevrault, men can *just* cuddle? Wow!  Big Grin

ETA: How to abstain? Tell him you're fertile. It's a real mood killer.
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#12
It's true; saying you are fertile is a real mood killer. The other thing is that, at least for me, everything is so tender when I'm fertile, I just don't want to be touched.

Now, granny-panties are another story. They don't work here, at least for us. My husband is a strange creature anyway. So, my great-aunt died this past summer and we (the ladies of the family) had to go through her things. We found some really old clothes put away that were identified as belonging to my great-grandmother. And one of those things were her pettipants. They weren't the ruffled kind, or anything pretty, but these plain cotton, white boxer-brief things for ladies. I had no idea what to call them and in fact, I called them "pantaloons" because it was close to the Russian word for "drawers". It was only later I learned the proper term was pettipants... Well, my aunts decided I should have them because I was the smallest one that would fit them.

So, I had to do housework for another relative, and it was hot, I decided to throw on the pettipants with one of my cousin's undershirts. We're talking the most unarousing outfit ever. With flip flops. The main thing is that I have these BIG white cotton old lady underpants on as pants.

They didn't repel Goldilocks. He said it was a "pre-revolutionary" or peasant get up.
Nothing, nothing better happen to one hair on my gorgeous head. Can you dig it?
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#13
(01-01-2018, 01:21 PM)Zubr Wrote: So, I had to do housework for another relative, and it was hot, I decided to throw on the pettipants with one of my cousin's undershirts. We're talking the most unarousing outfit ever. With flip flops. The main thing is that I have these BIG white cotton old lady underpants on as pants.

They didn't repel Goldilocks. He said it was a "pre-revolutionary" or peasant get up.

You vixen you!
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#14
(01-01-2018, 01:21 PM)Zubr Wrote: It's true; saying you are fertile is a real mood killer. The other thing is that, at least for me, everything is so tender when I'm fertile, I just don't want to be touched.

Now, granny-panties are another story. They don't work here, at least for us. My husband is a strange creature anyway. So, my great-aunt died this past summer and we (the ladies of the family) had to go through her things. We found some really old clothes put away that were identified as belonging to my great-grandmother. And one of those things were her pettipants. They weren't the ruffled kind, or anything pretty, but these plain cotton, white boxer-brief things for ladies. I had no idea what to call them and in fact, I called them "pantaloons" because it was close to the Russian word for "drawers". It was only later I learned the proper term was pettipants... Well, my aunts decided I should have them because I was the smallest one that would fit them.

So, I had to do housework for another relative, and it was hot, I decided to throw on the pettipants with one of my cousin's undershirts. We're talking the most unarousing outfit ever. With flip flops. The main thing is that I have these BIG white cotton old lady underpants on as pants.

They didn't repel Goldilocks. He said it was a "pre-revolutionary" or peasant get up.

Actually I think (from talking to other Christian women and from my own experience that being aware that you are fertile can be a very attractive to your husband ! 

I suspect the old time femininity of your underthings helps too.
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#15
Telling a man that you are fertile can certainly backfire. Remember humans are programmed to want to have kids. There's a reason why an allure exists in the pornographic world, where contraception is not used. Certainly it's twisted and deformed to resemble some sick domination/humiliation of the woman, but the reality is, is that we are put here on this earth to procreate.
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#16
(01-12-2018, 08:29 AM)Yaustenbosten Wrote: Telling a man that you are fertile can certainly backfire.  Remember humans are programmed to want to have kids.  There's a reason why an allure exists in the pornographic world, where contraception is not used.  Certainly it's twisted and deformed to resemble some sick domination/humiliation of the woman, but the reality is, is that we are put here on this earth to procreate.

And that our instinct to intimacy especially around ovulation is for that purpose !
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