Jumping In and Out of Hell
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(03-19-2018, 03:33 AM)Rivers Wrote: I think when you get married, at least 75% of the battle is won.

A while back I spoke with several priests on the matter. Asking those who hears confessions of the married and unmarried (they weren't connecting person with sin, but speaking of general trends) one would find that while marriage is a help, especially because of the Sacramental grace, it is not a sufficient solution in itself. The difficulties in marriages are often the cause of many sins.

For example, an argument means the husband is out sleeping on the couch for several evenings, and the couple isn't speaking to each other, he or she does not have the benefit of marital relations for a while, so because they have no virtue built up, they easily fall.

A friend's wife (a non-Catholic) recently revealed to him that she's been using contraceptive pills for a while without telling him. Because they are abortifacients as well, he cannot have marital relations any longer with his wife, and thus has to struggle with having a woman around with whom he has had regular benefit of relations, sleep in the same bed, but remain continent in the face of all of that. He effectively has to live like a religious but living with a woman, and none of this is his fault.

Virtue and will training are the only things that help in that situation on a natural level, and grace can only work when there is some natural foundation on which to build.

(03-19-2018, 03:33 AM)Rivers Wrote: People pursuing religious life probably aren't in a workplace where 80% of their colleagues are young women. They are also not on college campuses.

But a priest is in a parish, and often teaches in Catholic schools, which means regular contact with young women. Not only that but he hears their confessions and learns the intimate details of their lives, counsels them through difficult times, and that can easily build an attachment.

Again, grace helps here, but it must have a natural foundation.

Further, much of that exposure for the average layman can be avoided by prudent decision about where to live, how to behave, and putting in place the various obstacles to temptation.

We can lament the state of the world, but ultimately the only solution is to become a Saint yourself, which means that virtue and will training. One Saint can do a great deal towards converting those around him, but he may never see the effects of his work in this life.
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Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-16-2018, 02:15 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by BC - 03-16-2018, 02:25 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by FultonFan - 03-16-2018, 02:38 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-16-2018, 02:41 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by FultonFan - 03-16-2018, 02:51 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Galahad3 - 03-16-2018, 02:44 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-16-2018, 03:25 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by FultonFan - 03-16-2018, 03:38 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-16-2018, 08:00 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by FultonFan - 03-16-2018, 08:32 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-17-2018, 02:12 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by BC - 03-17-2018, 09:21 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-18-2018, 06:25 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by BC - 03-18-2018, 06:53 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-18-2018, 07:11 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by BC - 03-18-2018, 01:10 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-18-2018, 01:31 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-19-2018, 02:49 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-19-2018, 03:33 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by MagisterMusicae - 03-19-2018, 02:40 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-19-2018, 11:51 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Galahad3 - 03-16-2018, 03:29 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Poche - 03-17-2018, 01:09 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by IntoTheMystic - 03-18-2018, 08:22 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by GangGreen - 03-18-2018, 09:40 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-19-2018, 11:25 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Rivers - 03-19-2018, 03:43 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by SacraCor714 - 03-19-2018, 11:57 AM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by Ptochos - 03-21-2018, 12:36 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by GangGreen - 03-21-2018, 01:40 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by BC - 03-21-2018, 02:11 PM
RE: Jumping In and Out of Hell - by gracemary5 - 03-23-2018, 12:24 PM



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