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Getting married is hardly a solution to the masturbation problem. Maybe you'll do it less frequently, but it's certainly not a cure. What if your wife isn't a very sexual person and just doesn't want it (or at least not as often as you do)? What if she's exhausted from the day either with the kids or at work? What if she gets pregnant and she's constantly nauseous (and even puking) for months at a time? Same goes with the postpartum period, most women want nothing to do with sex during this time. Marriage isn't just having sex whenever and wherever you want. It takes two to tango and most women aren't going to be guilted into sex. Maybe you can get some really devout girl to buy into the "it's your duty as a wife" thing, but I figure that to be the exception rather than the rule. So either way, you'll have to find a way to learn self control.
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(03-21-2018, 01:40 PM)GangGreen Wrote: Getting married is hardly a solution to the masturbation problem. Maybe you'll do it less frequently, but it's certainly not a cure. What if your wife isn't a very sexual person and just doesn't want it (or at least not as often as you do)? What if she's exhausted from the day either with the kids or at work? What if she gets pregnant and she's constantly nauseous (and even puking) for months at a time? Same goes with the postpartum period, most women want nothing to do with sex during this time. Marriage isn't just having sex whenever and wherever you want. It takes two to tango and most women aren't going to be guilted into sex. Maybe you can get some really devout girl to buy into the "it's your duty as a wife" thing, but I figure that to be the exception rather than the rule. So either way, you'll have to find a way to learn self control.

I think being a masculine man who keeps himself in shape and stays assertive and not too deferential should keep a wife physically interested in her husband.  As a wife who takes care of herself, eats healthy, and stays relatively slim will keep the physical interest of the husband.
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(03-21-2018, 02:11 PM)BC Wrote:
(03-21-2018, 01:40 PM)GangGreen Wrote: Getting married is hardly a solution to the masturbation problem. Maybe you'll do it less frequently, but it's certainly not a cure. What if your wife isn't a very sexual person and just doesn't want it (or at least not as often as you do)? What if she's exhausted from the day either with the kids or at work? What if she gets pregnant and she's constantly nauseous (and even puking) for months at a time? Same goes with the postpartum period, most women want nothing to do with sex during this time. Marriage isn't just having sex whenever and wherever you want. It takes two to tango and most women aren't going to be guilted into sex. Maybe you can get some really devout girl to buy into the "it's your duty as a wife" thing, but I figure that to be the exception rather than the rule. So either way, you'll have to find a way to learn self control.

I think being a masculine man who keeps himself in shape and stays assertive and not too deferential should keep a wife physically interested in her husband.  As a wife who takes care of herself, eats healthy, and stays relatively slim will keep the physical interest of the husband.

Yes that is true, BC, but it's often not a matter of wanting to or not, but a matter of physically being able to.  As GangGreen pointed out, there are many times during pregnancy and post pregnancy it's just not possible.  Then there is the fertile time if you are on NFP and her menstrual period...(not always off limits, but not always possible)

So yes, it's very important to try one's best to gain self-control before marriage because resorting to masturbation or what's even more common, porn, can really do damage to a marriage.
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(03-21-2018, 04:27 PM)Sacred Heart lover Wrote:
(03-21-2018, 02:11 PM)BC Wrote:
(03-21-2018, 01:40 PM)GangGreen Wrote: Getting married is hardly a solution to the masturbation problem. Maybe you'll do it less frequently, but it's certainly not a cure. What if your wife isn't a very sexual person and just doesn't want it (or at least not as often as you do)? What if she's exhausted from the day either with the kids or at work? What if she gets pregnant and she's constantly nauseous (and even puking) for months at a time? Same goes with the postpartum period, most women want nothing to do with sex during this time. Marriage isn't just having sex whenever and wherever you want. It takes two to tango and most women aren't going to be guilted into sex. Maybe you can get some really devout girl to buy into the "it's your duty as a wife" thing, but I figure that to be the exception rather than the rule. So either way, you'll have to find a way to learn self control.

I think being a masculine man who keeps himself in shape and stays assertive and not too deferential should keep a wife physically interested in her husband.  As a wife who takes care of herself, eats healthy, and stays relatively slim will keep the physical interest of the husband.

Yes that is true, BC, but it's often not a matter of wanting to or not, but a matter of physically being able to.  As GangGreen pointed out, there are many times during pregnancy and post pregnancy it's just not possible.  Then there is the fertile time if you are on NFP and her menstrual period...(not always off limits, but not always possible)

So yes, it's very important to try one's best to gain self-control before marriage because resorting to masturbation or what's even more common, porn, can really do damage to a marriage.

Be sure and read the Morning Sickness thread.  It will give you a good idea of what many women and their husbands go through for months (years even) with pregnancies.

But to be clear, the cross is there but so are the many, many joys!  Having that baby stand up in his crib, smiling and bouncing up and down to greet you in the morning...totally worth it!
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(03-16-2018, 02:15 PM)SacraCor714 Wrote: JUST. STOP. SINNING. THEN YOU WON'T HAVE THIS PROBLEM. That's what everybody usually tells me.

Well, if that worked, I wouldn't be here now would I?

i have struggled in the same way and everyone else has also (Catholics and others of good Christian will)

But... am i reading into this .. um..

you are LIVING with someone you have had sex with?

You can't do that!

no wonder you fail.

(No, i am not trying to bash u over the he ad, just speaking the truth)
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