As Things End
#1
Hey All, I've returned to ask for your prayers. It looks like I will no longer be getting married. My fiance told me a few days ago that he no longer wants marriage. He is going to move back to the East Coast and live with his mother.

We'd already sent out invitations to my entire family, people have booked hotels and flights, and now everyone is laughing at me and sneering at me because they never took me seriously in the first place and now they really never will. I am currently visiting my mom's side of the family in Arkansas and I had to tell all of them in person that everything is off now.

I guess God is punishing me for all my sexual sins and all the times I've made out with my fiance.

I want so badly to be a wife and mother and settle down in a home of my own. I begged God for years to send me a good husband. When HE came along, I was so sure that HE was the answer to my prayers, and that God was finally going to help me. But now it's all over. God has played a cruel joke on me and broken my heart. Now I have to start all over again, and I'm afraid of reaching out and giving my heart to other men who might just keep using and abusing me.

Once I get home I will have to drag all my stuff out of HIS apartment. Another punishment from God for living with a man I wasn't married to. I hope God enjoys laughing at my misery while showering blessings on my cousins and friends who are getting married this year and who are already living in beautiful homes together and having all the sex they want.

Please pray that I don't entirely lose my faith and that I somehow recover from this. And you can all have a good laugh at my expense because you all knew this was coming. So go ahead, all say it together: WE TOLD YOU SO. HAHAHAHAHAHAH.
St. Joseph, Terror of Demons, Pillar of Families, Glory of Domestic Life, Pray for Us!
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#2
I certainly won't say I told you so! I will, however, pray for you as you go through this very difficult time. I had something similar happen to me years ago, and I know how much it must hurt. May Our Lord and His Blessed Mother bring you healing. :pray:
Jovan-Marya of the Immaculate Conception Weismiller, T.O.Carm.

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#3
:awww:

I'm so sorry for everything you are going through right now. :(

No one of good faith would ever laugh at you for the pain you are suffering, especially since we are all fellow sinners who have made many mistakes of our own and can commiserate.

God would certainly never laugh at your pain.

I had a breakup after a two-year relationship and it's so hard because you feel like someone died.

It takes a while to grieve and get past it.

Looking back I can certainly say it was for the best because it wasn't a good match at all, but it's so hard to see that at the time. :(

Keep in mind that marriage is certainly no guarantee of happiness and the single life is no sentence of misery.

Often other couples look happy in public but are suffering great miseries in private, so you can't really know what they are going through.  So many deal with porn or substance addictions, physical or emotional abuse, abortions, and extended family issues that aren't aired in public.

We all have various worldly addictions and trials which keep us humble and dependent on God.

Ultimately, I believe everyone here at least, wants only what is best for you in the long run and I certainly hope that is the case with this situation.

I know you will have learned much and be the wiser for it.

I pray that God will give you the peace that passes all understanding and that this will work out to be much better for you than what you originally planned!   
:pray2:

"He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3


May Jesus comfort you in the love of his Sacred Heart.   :heart:
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I will say, however, that as bad as things are now, they would be much worse if he came to this decision after the marriage took place.
Jovan-Marya of the Immaculate Conception Weismiller, T.O.Carm.

Vive le Christ-roi! Vive le roi, Louis XX!
Deum timete, regem honorificate.
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  “Qui me amat, amet et canem meum. (Who loves me will love my dog also.)” 
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SacraCor714--

Everything that Sacred Heart lover said (post #3).

I am certainly not laughing at you . . . what is there to laugh about? Why would any of us here mock you?

You gave your heart and trust to someone else, and now it appears it isn't going to work out. Yes, the extramarital circumstances you describe may not have been right, but the feeling of love that you had for this man, if it was genuine, is not something that God is going to condemn you for.

A priest once told me-- and this man was no slouch when it came to teaching about the sanctity and proper circumstances of the sexual act (within marriage!) --that God is not in the business of playing "Gotcha!"

So, get to Confession, and pour out your sorrows to a priest, in a spirit of genuine contrition. You will be forgiven!

Jesus loves you, SacraCor. He wants you to come to Him.

And if you are still angry with Him, then be angry. Another priest told me that in that situation, the good thing is you are still talking to Jesus, even if you are "yelling" at Him.

Don't stop praying to Him! The anger will eventually pass.

Don't give up, SacraCor, and keep praying. I will say it again, in the words of that great Saint, Teresa of Calcutta:

Jesus loves you.
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#6
Peace.....I wouldn't laugh at you either and I am sure :heart: your family will be happy this happened now and not in a few more years with 3 children at your side.  Once you get your bearings (in the Lord of course) and move on, be more selective and keep the faith.  Perhaps you will encounter a special relationship who holds the faith dear and puts you first, but right after God!  God bless, angeltime
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I pray for you.  [Image: prayer.gif] 


Hail Mary, full of grace,

the Lord is with thee;

blessed art thou amongst women,

and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God,

pray for us sinners,

now and at the hour of our death. Amen. :pray2: :monstrance:
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I'm not one of those who would dare to laugh at your pain. I stand with those who will do their best to comfort you in your hour of misery and to pray for you.

We're here for you. Period.
"The whole modern world has divided itself into Conservatives and Progressives. The business of Progressives is to go on making mistakes. The business of the Conservatives is to prevent the mistakes from being corrected." - G. K. Chesterton
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(03-24-2018, 04:09 PM)jovan66102 Wrote: I will say, however, that as bad as things are now, they would be much worse if he came to this decision after the marriage took place.

You beat me to it.

I saw this as a blessing in disguise.

Any guy that would string you along this far, to nearly heading to the Church for a wedding, who then drops you and runs to 'live with Mama'...really? You dodged a bullet here sister!
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I don't need a good memory, because I always tell the truth.
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Its no wonder truth is stranger than fiction.
Fiction has to make sense
Mark Twain

If history doesn't repeat itself, it sure does rhyme.
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You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.
C.S. Lewis

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I am so very sorry for all the pain you must be feeling right now, SacraCor. I also cannot imagine anyone who would be laughing at you under these circumstances. You can be assured of my prayers for you. As others have said, stay close to our Lord; don't stop talking to Him. He has plans for you that are so much better, so much more than what you hoped for with this young man.  And as painful as it is, a good thing about it ending this way is that you can be certain it wasn't meant to be. Certain it's over. No being left in limbo anymore. 
Be gentle with yourself, SacraCor. And trust in God. Even if you don't feel like it, do it anyway. Make that leap of faith. He is the only one who will never let you down. Never. He is the only one who will always love you more than His own life. Always. Your heart has been broken, but remember that His has been broken too. And for you. Don't shut Him out.
"..the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world" -William Ross Wallace
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