So Tired of Going to Confession...
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(04-16-2018, 07:01 PM)SEDLIBERANOSAMALO Wrote: I would also recommend as much time in front of the Blessed Sacrament as possible . . . in addition to "live" visits,  I have been recently streaming the Blessed Sacrament (via savior.org),  with much fruitful result.  

Not a bad idea, especially when temptations spring up. Although I find it hard to get into the same mindset vs. being there in person. Anyway, here's a YouTube livecast with a much clearer picture of the Blessed Sacrament ( assume they didn't set their camera's time ahead an hour for DST :D)
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(04-16-2018, 09:50 AM)SacraCor714 Wrote:
Quote:Just went to confession on Saturday and fell again last night. This has been going on for about 10 years now. I go to confession (sometimes taking great risks in inclement weather) and am in a state of grace again for a maximum of 12 hours before falling again.

That was good that you went to Confession.


Quote:What's the point of it all?

Grace.

Quote:I'm so sick of going to confession because the graces I supposedly receive do nothing for me. I have not taken a single step forward in 10 years. I am exactly where I was 10 years ago. No progress. No help in overcoming this sin. In fact, I'm more angry with God than ever because I was so close to having a marriage and a fulfilling sexual relationship, and He tore all of that away from me.

This young man wasn't the one for you. Stop blaming God that this guy isn't for you.

Quote:And just what am I supposed to do with these desires if I have no way out except praying my Rosary, which works about as well as trying not to think about purple elephants. Do not think about purple elephants. SEE. YOU JUST DID. NOW YOU'RE GOING TO HELL. HAHA.

You aren't going to hell. Wear your scapular, keep going to confession, Mary's Rosary and I don't believe for a minute God will let you slip from His grip. He'll care for you and love you. He won't leave you in your trial. 


Quote:God is cruel and He demands the impossible from us with no help from Him (and if we're not perfect, then we are flung into eternal damnation). God only gives His graces to an elite, select few. The rest of us losers were born to wander in pain and agony in this brief, ugly world and then suffer in Hell for eternity.

This is a sad, twisted distortion. He loves you better than anyone ever could or would or will.


Quote:I just can't take this anymore and I'm sick of trying because it doesn't do any good or make any difference. I cannot just keep on keeping on without even just a crumb of consolation, and God won't even give me that. He has taken away literally everything that I had hoped for. He has inflicted me with nearly uncontrollable sexual desires and then tortured me by flaunting marriage in my face and ripping it away at the last possible moment, when it would hurt the most.

God didn't flaunt marriage in your face, that boyfriend did. The boyfriend dumped you, not God. 

Quote:What kind of God is this? What kind of loving father is this? Not the kind of God I want to serve.

You only love God for what He'll give you, you love him for the treats, not for God Himself because you don't even know God. You don't know how tenderly He wants to BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE, you knucklehead. He wants to be your perfect love. 


Quote:It's like a father brutally beating his child with a belt and then reassuring the sobbing, bleeding child that the beating was good for him and that someday he'll thank his father for it. That is just sick. That is not a loving father.


Sick and twisted distortion of reality. God loves you and wants to offer you something better than you have ever had the slightest notion of. Grow up. Why don't you just ask God to take the place of this guy? Ask Him to be your one and only. It's the place He deserves.
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Persevere..Eucharist, Holy Rosary, Brown Scapular, Confession. You will win.
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(04-16-2018, 07:01 PM)SEDLIBERANOSAMALO Wrote: As I mentioned before on a different post, I really see evidence of spiritual oppression going on in your life.  Please take the suggestions of the others, but also consider deliverance prayers for yourself.   Father Chad Ripperger has a really good book on prayers for deliverance . . . there may be a soul tie that may need to be renounced, or generational healing that is needed.

I would also recommend as much time in front of the Blessed Sacrament as possible . . . in addition to "live" visits,  I have been recently streaming the Blessed Sacrament (via savior.org),  with much fruitful result.  

Lastly, have Masses said for yourself and for reparation of unforgiven sins of your ancestors.

If it is indeed spiritual oppression, it may get worse before it gets better (especially if you are reciting the deliverance prayers and intent on purging evil from your life).   Keep praying and asking for prayers, especially intercessory prayers of Mary and the saints.

In general I would not recommend Fr. Ripperger's book or the prayer that come from them for one reason : they were not approved for use by the laity by the Ecclesiastical authority.

In an interview he responded to this critique made by others saying that a second edition was going through his Ordinary, but that does not change the fact that these prayer were issued without the Canonically-required approbation of his local Ordinary.

The devil is a legalist. Fr Ripperger himself says this and warns people against it. 

You don't want to be messing with things which could be in themselves good, if there is something tainted about them.

On that basis I would suggest that Fr Ripperger's book on deliverance prayers be avoided until such a time as an approved edition is issued.
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(04-16-2018, 10:52 PM)MagisterMusicae Wrote: In general I would not recommend Fr. Ripperger's book or the prayer that come from them for one reason : they were not approved for use by the laity by the Ecclesiastical authority.

On that basis I would suggest that Fr Ripperger's book on deliverance prayers be avoided until such a time as an approved edition is issued.

He flat out violated Canon 826, Paragraph 3, 'Books of prayers for the public or private use of the faithful are not to be published without the permission of the local ordinary.'
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Although I have no prior knowledge of your situation, and others have provided helpful responses already, I would like to say this:  As someone who committed the sin of self-abuse on a near-daily basis for about fifteen years and was fully enslaved to the habit, I understand your frustration, to say the least.  More times than I care to remember, I resolved to give up both that sin and the use of pornography (which started later), only to fall again and again, not only into impurity, but into despair.  Since I became Catholic and started trying more and more to live a chaste life, there have been a couple of lengthy periods where I did successfully abstain from the sin, only to fall again.  Whenever I go to confession after relapsing, the first thing my confessor almost always says, before even mentioning the sin itself, is “Don’t get discouraged.”  He fully understands the seriousness of the sin, but he understands also that the greatest danger in this situation, for those of us prone to it, is not the sin itself, but the despair we may fall into as a result of committing it.  Lust and impurity can destroy the soul, but a greater danger, and what pleases the devil even more than the habit of lust, is our abandoning any hope of God’s aid in the struggle against sin and death.  More and more, I try to remember the words of St. Paul (I am paraphrasing):  “God will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able.”  What I try to take from that is this:  that, if God is allowing me to fall into a certain temptation, it is because He knows that I can overcome it by His grace.


If this is helpful to you, thank God.  If it is not, disregard it.  I will only add, you are not alone in your struggle.  Many still struggle against this enemy every day.  Many have fought this enemy and have overcome by the grace of God.  They will pray for you, and, for what little it is worth, I will pray for you. May God bless you.
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#16
I feel your pain. I experiance the same problem as you. Mine has only been going on for 2 years. I believe it was St. Paul who had a thorn in his side that God would not remove. 

I have turned to Our Lady of Perpetual Help. I have an Icon and pray the prayer in the morning and when ever I am tempted. I also just started to say the Little office of the Immaculate Conception (I found a free app). I also say the Rosary daily. I'm retired so I go to daily Mass. I also limit my internet access, TV programs. Whenever a commercial comes on TV I leave the room or distract myself. Yes mine is a sin of the fleash. With the help of Our Lady I did overcome alcoholism.

I am a Cradle Catholic. I only came back to the Church about 2 years ago. I lived a very bad life, I'm still dealing with the wreckage and this sin is one of them. I have gone to confession at times 4 times I one week. I found a parish that has confession before every weekday Mass. One thing I learned is to stay humble. It is God that helps you overcome sin, not your will.

If you need to talk PM me.

Please don't give up hope. Keep trying. Try and make changes to your life. Some of us have a heavy cross.
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#17
One of the biggest things that helped me get better at conquering sins of impurity (or rather, cooperate with God's grace), was having a consistent prayer schedule, and understanding that this is spiritual warfare..while at the same time, focusing on God rather than worrying about falling every second. Another key thing while in a state of grace is to avoid a sort of light pride, thinking, "oh, I haven't done so and so in a while, yay me" and no surprise not too long after you fall again. What I have found helpful is when having that thought, making the sign of the cross, and saying "but for the grace of God." Because it is He who can deliver us from sin. Definitely do not point the finger at him, and keep persistent. I know it may seem bleak and useless, but the key is to get back up no matter what, and God understands that.

God bless, and you will be in my prayers!
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(04-17-2018, 07:42 AM)UsusAntiquior Wrote: One of the biggest things that helped me get better at conquering sins of impurity (or rather, cooperate with God's grace), was having a consistent prayer schedule, and understanding that this is spiritual warfare..while at the same time, focusing on God rather than worrying about falling every second. Another key thing while in a state of grace is to avoid a sort of light pride, thinking, "oh, I haven't done so and so in a while, yay me" and no surprise not too long after you fall again. What I have found helpful is when having that thought, making the sign of the cross, and saying "but for the grace of God." Because it is He who can deliver us from sin. Definitely do not point the finger at him, and keep persistent. I know it may seem bleak and useless, but the key is to get back up no matter what, and God understands that.

God bless, and you will be in my prayers!

This is a big one and has happened to me consistently throughout my life. Yay, one week. Yay, two weeks. Yay, one month. Boom.
Blood of Christ, relief of the burdened, save us.

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I will not debate whether Father Ripperger violated cannon law. I do know that Father Ripperger's book Deliverance Prayers for Use by the Laity (2017) contains the same prayers that are recommended by Father Gabriel Amorth, chief exorcist of Rome until his death last year, and those in Preces et Exorcismi Privati, 5th Edition, which the exorcist in our diocese gave to me and is much less readily available.

But, especially in cases of spiritual battle, one must be prudent, as was pointed out, the devil is a legalist. If one is looking for deliverance prayers from an approved source, the USCCB did publish a book last year of deliverance prayers for use by the laity. But the same poster above did warn about using prayers from tainted sources . . .
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Honestly, I'm not so sure that it's a great idea for laity to be praying those kinds of prayers unless they have a fairly strong spiritual life. It's like going to war without wearing any armor.
Blood of Christ, relief of the burdened, save us.

“It is my design to die in the brew house; let ale be placed in my mouth when I am expiring, that when the choirs of angels come, they may say, “Be God propitious to this drinker.” – St. Columbanus, A.D. 612
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