Allergic to Pants
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Well, I am not sure what to suggest. How about some loose pants & shirts, kind of a pajama style, like Mexican peons wore, or East Indian men from the Punjab. If they are in the drawer at the top, where you have Silently placed them, he might just grab them instead of bothering to rummage through a pile of other clothes to find his grunge wear. It would help if some other men in the neighborhood wore loose pants and shirts as well, as men seem to be notoriously conventional about the "norm". Perhaps a tropical shirt that one may just pull over the top of the head, not to bother with buttons? And those pants should have an elastic waist. If there is an older man family member who can say a few words to him about answering the door in a towel, words such as "you slob" and "don't be a jerk", he might listen better. Physically, a good source tells me that men do not have as good hearing as women do. You may have to simply say what you want in a loud, simple but relaxed manner, if you can do that. It seems to me that there is a respect and boundary issue, here. But that is for another discussion. One may only change oneself, and if you give respect, he might follow.

A son had a problem opening his mother's bedroom door without knocking, simply because he did not think and wanted to talk. Finally, the lady said to him, You know, I Always knock before entering your bedroom and you hardly ever knock before barging into mine without knocking!!! This really upsets me, and I would appreciate it if you would knock and wait for me to answer before you enter. Then I would be more in a mood to listen to you. Said in an even, firm, motherly dignified voice tone with an even look right at him. It worked! One woman corrected her husband by asking if he was retarded! Men actually like to be corrected by a composed person, if they are being unjust, for they do have a keen sense of justice.

I do not believe this man when he says attention is not involved in his slob habits. He knows he is getting a reaction from you and the neighbors. Men always test you with a story to see if you really mean it, or what they can get away with and still be loved. Perhaps he needs more respect and attention from a positive situation than he is getting at home, or perhaps he is being selfish and needs That pointed out to him. There is a lesson in tolerance, also. He may not change. Is it worth the battle, then? What was the name of that British sitcom of a wife who dearly loved her slob of all slob husbands? You might have to learn to just laugh it off.
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Allergic to Pants - by Zubr - 05-03-2018, 08:51 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Fontevrault - 05-03-2018, 10:08 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by jovan66102 - 05-03-2018, 11:24 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Dominicus - 05-04-2018, 12:03 AM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Zubr - 05-03-2018, 11:18 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by jovan66102 - 05-04-2018, 01:00 AM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by CaptCrunch73 - 05-04-2018, 07:03 AM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Zubr - 05-04-2018, 10:15 AM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by GangGreen - 05-04-2018, 10:37 AM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by greatdame - 05-04-2018, 01:39 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by havok579257 - 05-04-2018, 01:52 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Zubr - 05-04-2018, 04:44 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Fontevrault - 05-04-2018, 06:19 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by havok579257 - 05-04-2018, 11:44 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by Zubr - 05-05-2018, 01:09 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by JacafamalaRedux - 10-17-2018, 12:11 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by GangGreen - 10-17-2018, 05:31 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by RyanPatrick - 10-18-2018, 09:33 PM
RE: Allergic to Pants - by GangGreen - 10-19-2018, 03:14 PM



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