Men - how much time do you spend on the internet every day?
#1
At what point would you say to a male friend - buddy, you've got a big problem with your computer? Has anyone gone through an internet addiction before? (Just Internet, no porn or anything) 
how much time do you usually spend on the internet?
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(05-29-2018, 01:01 PM)Cecilia9 Wrote: At what point would you say to a male friend - buddy, you've got a big problem with your computer? Has anyone gone through an internet addiction before? (Just Internet, no porn or anything) 
how much time do you usually spend on the internet?

I would be inclined to say, when it is having a notable impact on his functioning in life, either in fulfilment of his duties, or in depriving him of opportunities with his social group, etc.

For example, I am a computer programmer and spend most of my day, every weekday, on the computer.  Further, living a distance from my friends, mobile phones (lumping mobile phones in with computers) become a great way to maintain a level of contact which we otherwise would not have due to distance.

However, if I were spending all of my free time on the computer at the expense of seeing my friends, e.g. skipping plans so as to continue doing whatever on my computer, or neglecting my prayer life then that would be bad.  Extrapolate of course to someone who is married or has another job, both of which entail the ability to separate yourself from electronics for long periods of time in order to properly fulfil the obligations of those.

tl;dr using computers recreationally without obsession is fine. When it becomes a fixture of life which interferes with living life or with fulfiling the duties of life however, then it is bad.
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Well, I spend probably 80%-85% of my waking hours on an electronic device of one sort or another. However, in my defense, I am retired, my wife still works, I run a blog, my Breviary and prayerbook are on my Kindle, and I read on my Kindle. I still fulfil the duties of my state, helping my wife, doing the laundry to lighten her load, etc.

***ETA*** Why just a 'male friend'? My wife spends just as much of her non-working hours on her laptop or her Kindle.
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Women are certainly just as addicted to electronics as men. People are always staring at their phones or laptops. Men may be more likely to be playing video games compared to women, but that doesn't mean that women don't do other time wasting things. Then add to that TV. It's a wonder if people who have a white collar job spend more than an hour a day away from a screen of some sort unless they're purposely going out of their way to do something that doesn't involve their electronics. Goes for both sexes.
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Woah, woah woah...i'm not picking on men here. Of course, women can have a problem too. I'm asking for a man in my life and the genders are different so I thought that I would ask the man section. May I just say that you all seem just a bit jumpy about men versus women. I hate that there has to be so much of the gender wars on the internet. One side fuels the other most of the time.
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I just wanted to know how a man would like to be approached about the problem without feeling emasculated, I guess? Or if anyone went through it themselves successfully? And more of a sense of what normal computer time is. I know that it's a problem but the internet is so important in so many ways that you can't just cut it off like anything else. If a guy had serious control issues with time management but he couldn't take it out of his life, what advice would you give him? It feels like a zero or a hundred issue - like he would have to go cold turkey to solve it but he really can't for practical reasons. He tried once for lent but failed in two days and then gave up.
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#7
If you are falling into pornography or you are having impure or idle conversations, then you are probably using the internet too much, or at least should be using it only in public places. If you are using the internet for idle things to the point that you are neglecting your prayer life, your physical or mental health, your family and friends, or your professional life, I suggest reevaluating your internet habits. A spiritual director could better help you determine whether or not you are using the internet too much. Be cautious though. I have occasionally come across spiritual directors who seem to think we should just avoid the internet altogether.
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(05-29-2018, 03:09 PM)Cecilia9 Wrote: Woah, woah woah...i'm not picking on men here. Of course, women can have a problem too. I'm asking for a man in my life and the genders are different so I thought that I would ask the man section. May I just say that you all seem just a bit jumpy about men versus women. I hate that there has to be so much of the gender wars on the internet. One side fuels the other most of the time.

For what it's worth, I understood your reasoning. :)
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When it comes to too much internet i think it depends on what you do. Ive been a catholic for about one year, and i still learn alot about the faith, the saints etc, and i spend alot of time reading about these subjects on the internet, so even if i spend a few hours reading about saints etc i think its well spent "internet time". I dont think internet itself is in some way bad, its what you do with it. If i was spending hours hunting for likes on facebook, twitter or instagram then indeed it would be a problem. 

I spend maybe around 5 hours per day on the internet. This includes doing banking and other household related stuff, listening to music, reading, looking for jobs (im unemployed atm).

And as people have already pointed out if one fails to do everyday stuff like praying etc then you are most likely addicted, if not you should atleast regulate ur internet use so that you do your daily duties etc.
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