(11-20-2018, 04:26 PM)lessthanholy Wrote: I found this a little confusing; however, there is no church teaching on contraception, or abortion, this is the problem Vatican II is confusing to people.  I became more interested in women, at Catholic Match, when they selected "no" to such questions, because when communicating with them, I found them to be more knowledgeable of their faith.   This can be more meaningful than their cooking skills.  America is pluralistic.  As such, Catholic and exotic women can be found.  It can be a vulnerable experience online/offline meeting.  When online, meeting face to face at some point, will be important, and those whom you have met face to face in a parish, may maintain their status online as offline.  Vatican II may not provide any more solid of a spouse than a foreign country, but personal views vary anyway.  It really is critical to think about the children at some point.  Friendship is an underestimated strategy, and sometimes dismissed to have what will appear to be more than friendship, only to find the commitment is the same.

I'm not quite sure I followed. Another way of saying my original thought is rhetorical: "If you don't accept the Church's teaching on abortion, contraception, etc., then why are you on Catholic Match?" Obviously the answer is because many people don't think their faith through well, as you allude to, but it surprises me that the website provides those questions -- except so that those who accept Church teaching can filter out those who do not, which is a good feature.

I didn't quite follow the rest of what you said, though I believe as well that friendship is of vital importance in any relationship. I think you should first be friends and know each other well, and then if you decide to discern, you are in a better position for healthy discernment, and regardless of how it goes, you can still fall back upon that friendship and mutual esteem as people, rather than parting ways forever. (Truly, if you value her enough to want to discern with her, why would you wish not to know her otherwise? Or if you don't know her well enough already, how could you possibly want to discern such a serious vocation with her?)
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