Ladies, what to expect your first time?
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Ladies, a sensitive question. I’ll be becoming one flesh with my beloved in just a few weeks. I’m pretty nervous. What should I expect? Any advice? Tips? Warnings? 

Thank you. I want a Catholic perspective since googling this question is a really bad idea.


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Don't expect things to go smoothly.  It'll be awkward, and um, things won't exactly fit the first couple of times (or a few times in my case).  Lubricant can help with this (Pre-Seed is a good one if you're trying for a baby!)  Have fun with it as you're learning about each other on another level.  Don't be afraid to laugh (there was a funny phrase my now husband promised he wouldn't say during our first time because I told him it would be a turn-off, but when we were having a bit of trouble, he said it to break the tension and I burst out laughing!)  Don't drink too much (my aunts suggested that I get drunk to ease my nerves, ugh!)  Try different positions.  Oh, and it'll probably hurt (it's a little different for everyone).  It'll also be a little messy.  Cuddles and kisses are highly recommended after!

I'm not a Catholic (yet!), but I hope this gives you an idea.  Many people bring in expectations of sex scenes from movies and books and then are let down when it doesn't happen that way.  I grew up with such images in my head and it took a while to build a more realistic view.  Prayer beforehand can help, and if you really get nervous, watch a cute cat video or something that makes you both laugh before your start.  I did. Kitty Cat

Romantic 

~Lily~
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It will be awkward at first. Romantic music helps. Lots of kisses and cuddles. Long foreplays. I was quite nervous with my first time.
It wasn't what I expected after all, it was a good experience. Don't be too nervous. Just be yourself, express the love that you have for your husband. I hope it went well with your first. God bless.
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Expect the unexpected! Cheers! And cheers....Once the babies start coming along you two will never have another irresponsible moment in your entire life. Jaca's routing for you, SacraCor!!!   Cheerleader
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