Did I allow sacrilege to happen?
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I just discovered that my hedonistic, fornicating, atheist, former Catholic brother-in-law deliberately received holy communion at our wedding mass a few months ago. My husband and I had our backs turned and were facing the altar at the time, so we didn’t notice him receiving it. I put a paragraph in our wedding program that was distributed to everyone that requested non-Catholics and Catholics not in a state of grace refrain from receiving holy Communion, but apparently he purposely and maliciously ignored that. 

I feel horrible that this sacrilege happened under our watch, and I don’t know what to do. Should we have told Father before Mass to expressly deny Communion to BIL? Should we have asked Father to make an announcement for all the non-Catholics before Communion? I thought the paragraph in our Mass program was sufficient. My husband says BIL still probably would have received anyway even if Father had made an announcement. 

Should I bring this up at my next confession and make some major acts of reparation? I feel like this is completely my fault.  BIL was raised and baptized Catholic and knew exactly what he was doing.
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How would you have committed a sin by someone else doing something you tried to prevent?

I'm a teacher. Were I to warn my students not to use a calculator on the exam else they would forfeit credit, and one snuck one in and was later reported for it would I be responsible?

Do some reparation on his behalf, perhaps, but you bear no guilt here.
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I don’t have much to add, but what else could you have done?
I find the fact you had that in the bulletin alone rather impressive.
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(08-21-2019, 11:45 PM)SacraCor714 Wrote: BIL was raised and baptized Catholic and knew exactly what he was doing.

It's on him, not you.
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