Moving far away for loved on.
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I am interested in a trad woman but she doesn't want to move away from where her family is. Understandable, I wouldn't either but I have (for work reasons). Work is not an acceptable reason for her to leave her area. I am not sure I can find a job that pays as well in her area. Any thoughts or advice?
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(10-12-2019, 06:48 PM)Bombero Wrote: I am interested in a trad woman but she doesn't want to move away from where her family is. Understandable, I wouldn't either but I have (for work reasons). Work is not an acceptable reason for her to leave her area. I am not sure I can find a job that pays as well in her area. Any thoughts or advice?

It is not unusual for young women to want to stay closer to family.
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So, if you really like her, look for work in her area.  Not half-hearted, unless your interest in her is half-hearted, then make a decision.  I would not move for someone I kinda' like, but for love and marriage, yes, I would.  Also, you might want to talk about how close she wants to be to her family.  20 minute drive?  30 minutes down the interstate?  2 hours?
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If this is someone that you think might be The One, perhaps assessing your work-related choices in her area is in order. Or, tangentially, is there some sort of position related to your skillset (in her area) that you could be satisfied with?
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Is it not unusual for families to move for economic reasons?

I have a job that pays well. The area that she lives in is economically depressed and doesn't have my line of work. If I were to move there, it would be starting over (by going into a different career) and that would result in a 2/3rd decrease in my income.
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(10-13-2019, 01:04 PM)Bombero Wrote: Is it not unusual for families to move for economic reasons?

I have a job that pays well. The area that she lives in is economically depressed and doesn't have my line of work. If I were to move there, it would be starting over (by going into a different career) and that would result in a 2/3rd decrease in my income.

Valid point.  I don't have an answer.  You have to work and you have to support a family which means you need to make the best money you can.  2/3rds is a huge drop in income.  Is there anything with a couple of hours of her family?  That way you could visit on a regular basis.  Is this something you can discuss with her family as well?  Sort of a 'I really like Mary, I may love her,  but I can't earn enough to support her and children in this area'.....
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Maybe time is what you both need.  Time to think and determine whether you should marry, nor not.  
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Good luck.  You are in a tough spot.
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