Boys vs. Girls
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Hello everyone! I just found out that our first baby is a boy and I'm so excited! But I'm also terrified because I know nothing about boys. I never had any brothers or guy friends growing up. How are boys different from girls? What do they need? I just want to be a good mother but I'm feeling like I'm sailing on uncharted waters here. 

Thanks for the advice in advance.


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Congratulations!!! That is wonderful news. I can only speak from my own personal experience having had one boy and four girls. I love them all equally, from the bottom of my heart with everything I've got. Each one for different reasons.... 

However I will say growing up, my boy was a cake walk compared to all four of the girls. With my boy, the issue was more physical. I'd have to worry that if he had a bunch of his friends over, something may get broken: a lamp, the mirror in the hallway, somebody's arm. 

If my girls had/have a group of friends over, I have to worry that someone's feelings might get broken. It's much easier to deal with a broken thing than a broken heart. This isn't to say boys don't have feelings; of course they do. They just have far fewer feelings and they don't express them as much. Boys need their dads to help them become young men.

They just need mom more for love and food and faith. So growing up, my girls have been harder. 

That said, now that they've grow up a bit, my relationship with my daughters is much closer. Woman-to-young woman. Girls talk a lot more. My son will soon be married and he naturally goes to his lady love for the feminine virtues. I wouldn't have it any other way. 

I just pray they all will lead a Catholic life. But that's getting onto a tangent you won't have to worry about for another several years or so. Enjoy your son! For a little while he's yours.  Heart
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This is great news!  Congratulations.
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I have raised both.
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If you have him circumcised, this will be done by a doctor in the hospital before you both come home.  Care of the penis after being circumcised is important, but simple and they will tell you what to do before you leave the hospital.  You may have a followup/6 week appointment scheduled before you leave the hospital; if not, you need to make the appointment.  Nicely, every pediatrician we have ever had has scheduled all followups and well-baby appointments when we check out of the current appointment so we don't forget.  Find a pediatrician you like because you will spend more time in their offices than you think.  But, most pediatricians are in a practice and you sometimes get the doctor who is in the office that day, not necessarily the doctor you prefer.
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As babies there is not much difference. Baby girls can be more cuddly and sweet, but boys can also be so, it is more a personality trait and each is wonderful in their own way.  Baby boys tend to be more active, but again, maybe that is more personality than gender.  The boys tended to toss toys around, and in my face, more than the girls.  Maybe. Do not let any baby hit you in the face. Be kind, very gentle with a kind voice, but gently show and tell him 'no, don't hit in the face". Touching your face is one thing, hitting is another. You can start this at about 6-8months. Keep lots of eye contact. Avoid propping him up with pillows to bottle feed, use that time to make eye contact, sing, kiss fingers, general lovey-dovey, it is worth the time and effort and focus.
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There is no difference in eating or sleeping habits.  Little difference in anger or frustration, except for one who was a very early walker but a slow talker.  Boys tend to walk around 1 year, girls tend to walk a month or two earlier.  Boys talk much later than girls, they know what they are thinking and what they want but the brain synapses are just not there as early as girls.
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Boys seem to be fascinated by their penis.  Yep.  The stereotypes are true. As soon as they can reach it, they are interested. Don't get me wrong, they don't walk around with their hands in their diapers, but when that diaper comes off...… Baby boys do pee straight up in the air, or in your face, when you are changing diapers.  Not all the time, but it does happen.  It is funnier when this happens to daddy.
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If I gave the boys and girls the options of toys, the boys always went for the "boy" toys and the girls always went for the "girl" toys.  Remember, small children don't need roomfuls of toys.  They really do like to play with boxes and pots and pans.
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The boys tended to like to be naked. After a bath they all liked to run around naked. Girls, nope. Yeah, you want to teach the kids to be modest and polite, but a couple of naked minutes after a bath is not a big deal. One little guy hated clothes, took off his clothes, except for underwear, all the time. The girls didn't like dressing in front of anyone except for Mom, the boys, well, they run around the house naked...
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When they get older the boys tend to get more wild and the girls tend to stay sweeter. The boys had no problem breaking their toys, didn't bother any of them, while the girls liked their toys to stay nice. As pre-teens and teenagers, I agree with the above poster, boys are more physical but less outwardly emotional, and were naturally more competitive. The girls were more socially concerned, could be devastated by mean girls - the boys would just beat the other guy up on the football field. However, the boys do have "sensitive spots", insecurities. He may be sensitive because he is shorter than the other boys, or taller, or heavier, or have acne. Protecting boys was/is easier than protecting girls. If your son grows to like art or music or other not traditionally masculine activity, don't worry - I have one who loves art and music and he can suckerpunch his older brother like a pro, a tough basketball player, too. He is also a good cook. Girls can be very, very competitive, but they handle it differently than the boys. I prefer the boys method.
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Flat out, boys are easier than girls, less maintenance. But when they get into trouble as teenagers, they can get into big trouble, so don't just hand him the car keys and hope for the best.
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Keep your kids busy. Keep them a little worn out. Sports, music, work in the family business, household chores. Bored kids get into trouble.
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(12-04-2019, 03:16 PM)SacraCor714 Wrote: Hello everyone! I just found out that our first baby is a boy and I'm so excited! But I'm also terrified because I know nothing about boys. I never had any brothers or guy friends growing up. How are boys different from girls? What do they need? I just want to be a good mother but I'm feeling like I'm sailing on uncharted waters here. 

Thanks for the advice in advance.

Congratulations, lucky mom! Our Blessed Mother didn't know anything about boys either...Just love him up--everything's going to be fine.
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Congratulations!  Children are a wonderful blessing, and boys are a riot.

My thoughts: love them, pray for them, give them room and time to run and burn off energy, start real early setting limits as far as physical activity (i.e.: no wrestling in the kitchen), and be prepared for them to laugh at bodily functions. 

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(12-04-2019, 06:46 PM)JacafamalaRedux Wrote: Congratulations!!! That is wonderful news. I can only speak from my own personal experience having had one boy and four girls. I love them all equally, from the bottom of my heart with everything I've got. Each one for different reasons.... 

However I will say growing up, my boy was a cake walk compared to all four of the girls. With my boy, the issue was more physical. I'd have to worry that if he had a bunch of his friends over, something may get broken: a lamp, the mirror in the hallway, somebody's arm. 

If my girls had/have a group of friends over, I have to worry that someone's feelings might get broken. It's much easier to deal with a broken thing than a broken heart. This isn't to say boys don't have feelings; of course they do. They just have far fewer feelings and they don't express them as much. Boys need their dads to help them become young men.

They just need mom more for love and food and faith. So growing up, my girls have been harder. 

That said, now that they've grow up a bit, my relationship with my daughters is much closer. Woman-to-young woman. Girls talk a lot more. My son will soon be married and he naturally goes to his lady love for the feminine virtues. I wouldn't have it any other way. 

I just pray they all will lead a Catholic life. But that's getting onto a tangent you won't have to worry about for another several years or so. Enjoy your son! For a little while he's yours.  Heart

To summarize your post: less drama than girls, but harder to keep alive.  Right? Sticking tongue out at you
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