Women Who Have Had Abortions and Don't Regret It
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My only 1st hand knowledge is based on three women who became pregnant in high school.
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One, the much older boyfriend and the mom pressured the young girl to have an abortion.  Yes, Catholics.
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One, her parents wanted her to have an abortion and she refused. Parents refused to support her or her baby.  Yes, Catholics.
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The other, the parents did not want the girl to have an abortion. They provided full, parental support for a teenager in a tough situation.  Yes, Catholics.
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16 year old girls are not adults, they don't think like adults, they often don't think past next month, so you can pressure them by telling them their life will be ruined if they follow thru with the pregnancy.   I mean, they sure didn't think things thru when they had sex, did they?   And when pregnant we feel, are really are, vulnerable.  So it is often the boyfriend and the parents who want the abortion. They are embarrassed that their child had sex and was so careless or ignorant that she got pregnant - what will our friends say? - so they want the problem to go away.  They want their daughter to go to college and "make something of herself" and they think a baby would prevent that.  The first one, her parents didn't want anyone to know that their good Catholic daughter was having sex - they killed their own grandchild, another human being, so they would not be embarrassed.
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I can't understand the adult woman who has an abortion by choice.  It is really her choice?  Or is she pressured by her single friends or her boyfriend?  What choice would she make if her boyfriend was happy and excited about the baby, if he promised to stand by her and support her, if he asked her to marry him?  With adults I think it is still juvenile thinking, not being able to see a future that is flexible.  Most humans throughout history were not planned but today we seem to think that all babies should arrive on schedule, after all, the glamorous people online seem to get pregnant whenever they want to and have babies at the most convenient time in their careers.
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And a culture of selfishness, lack of self-sacrifice, a disconnect between sex and procreation that can be overwhelming in our Western culture.
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I have never met a woman who does not regret her abortion.  20-30 years later they still grieve, they still feel pain, they still cry themselves to sleep.  They tell themselves that the baby is in heaven.  I don't think that putting them in jail would help, it is a cultural thing, very sad.  We have to actually teach our children that life begins at conception, that babies are real human beings with souls, and we have to start that teaching at a young age.  When teaching children about life you don't have to talk about abortion, just talk about life and the gift from God and Mommy and Daddy were so happy and excited when we found out that God was giving us a baby.
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RE: Women Who Have Had Abortions and Don't Regret It - by MaryTN - 01-07-2020, 07:48 PM



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