Ideas on how to be more positive
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One of the traits a lot of people, especially other young people find insufferable in me sometimes, is my negativity and pessimism about the future. But I've lived my entire life like this, I can't even envision how life is like for people who aren't like me. I was wondering if any of you who are more positive in outlook can share what goes through your head, and how you got there? And does anyone else think American culture puts too much emphasis on being positive?
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Andy, I reached a point in my life when all my illusions were stripped away, and my two remaining choices were to despair or to beg God not to let me become bitter. I prayed hard for the latter and at last it was granted. I then asked for gratitude and received that as well. I have found that I must continue to seek these two things in prayer every day, because painful memories can drag us down in the briefest moment. God bless you.
Qui me amat, amet et Deum meum.
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Perhaps, instead of trying to change your underlying temperament (pessimistic), try disciplining your mind to focus on the now and leaving the future to God. Ask Him every day to increase your trust in Him. Whether the future will be good, bad, or (most likely) a combo — really doesn’t matter when you are accepting whatever comes in the now as His Will. Wisdom and perspective come with the passing of time, so you may find that some of your negativity mellows as you get older.
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There is nothing wrong with this.  I've always been pretty doom-and-gloom myself and find overly "positive" people to be rather irritating.  I do think there is an overemphasis on being positive, or as I see it, forcing a smile and embracing a false sense of wellbeing regardless of the circumstances.  An inauthenticity.

Don't get me wrong - I admire people who can always see the silver lining in the worst situations.  Without these people, I would be severely lacking balance in my perspective and might be driven over the edge.  My problem is instead with the people who pathologically avoid anything "negative" for fear of acknowledging any actual issues because "it's such a drag" or "it kills the vibe."  I think this latter example is widely encouraged.

On the flipside, letting our sober view of reality weigh us down can certainly make us a drag and deprive us of life's abundant joy.  I always try to focus on simple pleasures and expressing gratitude towards God for providing these things.  Music, art, a good meal, nature, etc.  I also recommend talking to people who can encourage your lighter side, pointing out that silver lining without dismissing your concerns.
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Let nothing disturb you, 
Let nothing frighten you, 
All things are passing away: 
God never changes. 
Patience obtains all things
Whoever has God lacks nothing; 
God alone suffices.

 
-- St. Teresa of Avila
Qui me amat, amet et Deum meum.
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hello Here are some ways :
Start the day with a positive affirmation. ...
Focus on the good things, however small. ...
Find humor in bad situations. ...
Turn failures into lessons. ...
Transform negative self-talk into positive self-talk. ...
Focus on the present. ... todaygoldrateinhyderabad
Find positive friends, mentors and co-workers.
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(01-09-2020, 08:30 PM)Orthodox Andy Wrote: One of the traits a lot of people, especially other young people find insufferable in me sometimes, is my negativity and pessimism about the future. But I've lived my entire life like this, I can't even envision how life is like for people who aren't like me. I was wondering if any of you who are more positive in outlook can share what goes through your head, and how you got there? And does anyone else think American culture puts too much emphasis on being positive?

Hope for the best, be ready for the worse. 
If im over optimistic and don't consider the consequences then im likely to fall hard.
By being aware of both the good and the bad is when i make the best decisions.
And if things turn out for the worse and i fall, i will land on that soft cushion of pessimism.
FAITH BEGINS AT THE EDGE OF UNDERSTANDING
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(01-09-2020, 08:30 PM)Orthodox Andy Wrote: One of the traits a lot of people, especially other young people find insufferable in me sometimes, is my negativity and pessimism about the future. But I've lived my entire life like this, I can't even envision how life is like for people who aren't like me. I was wondering if any of you who are more positive in outlook can share what goes through your head, and how you got there? And does anyone else think American culture puts too much emphasis on being positive?

American culture is quaint, but sincerely lacking in the the edifying truth of Christianity. American ruggedness and determinism, it's can-do attitude was the reason it was able to accomplish outstanding feats such as landing a man on the Moon in less than a decade. It's a wonderful spirit, but it is wholly deficient and incomplete. It needs the spirit of Christ to make it whole. It needs the Church to guide it through the night. There's a false emphasis on being positive today, but that is not America, as much as it's people wishing to be in denial about the evils of this nation at their hands.

One way I try to look at being positive is seeing how many young people out there who seem to "get things" the elderly couldn't (like, there are more important things than material) and how there's a strong desire among the younger generations to turn away from materialism and towards tradition.

If that alone doesn't instill any positive outlook for the future, I don't know what will.
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(08-09-2020, 11:46 AM)austenbosten Wrote: American culture is quaint, but sincerely lacking in the the edifying truth of Christianity.  American ruggedness and determinism, it's can-do attitude was the reason it was able to accomplish outstanding feats such as landing a man on the Moon in less than a decade.  It's a wonderful spirit, but it is wholly deficient and incomplete.  It needs the spirit of Christ to make it whole.  It needs the Church to guide it through the night.  There's a false emphasis on being positive today, but that is not America, as much as it's people wishing to be in denial about the evils of this nation at their hands.

And, for the most part, whatever it has of Christianity, it's a Protestant Christianity, which is full of all sorts of false views of God and man and the world, often going to one extreme or the other, where the proper Catholic view is more balanced.
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Pray for an increase of the theological virtue of hope.
"[I]t is vain to hope to attract souls to God by a bitter zeal."  Pope St. Pius X.

"If anyone deludes himself by thinking he is serving God, when he has not learned to control his tongue, the service he gives is vain.  If he is to offer service pure and unblemished in the sight of God, who is our Father, he must take care of orphans and widows in their need, and keep himself unstained by the world."  James 1:26-27.
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