Going down a rocky road - Please pray...
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I so wish I could have devoted a lot of time and energy to being more active or at least a devoted spectator on this forum but I feel that I have hit a rough patch since the last few months...

Well, the past few months have involved me coming to terms with a lot of things at a personal level which seem sort of saddening but have no other choice but to accept it as a cross. Also, I have begun to give a leeway to impurity - I fall into the sin of pleasuring myself to porn and have started cussing a lot. I thought of giving these up during Lent this year but have been failing miserably. To make matters worse, while falling prey to temptation, I feel guilty that I am cheating the love of my life who has stood up for me through thick and thin as well as has saved my life...

With all my crosses at the personal and professional fronts, I’m finding it really difficult to pray (even basic prayers) and reconcile with God and Our Lady. Of course, I do honour Them still but I find myself helpless and hopeless and unable to see anything beyond my problems. The good side in me still expresses gratitude to God and Our Lady for all small victories in life but my crosses just overwhelm me for most of the time.

TBH, after all these happenings, I think I’m going through a spiritual crisis. I’m not thinking of changing my religion but don’t want to lose my religion either. I want to fight back, emerge out of these victorious and be reconciled back to God irrespective of my imperfections and sinful acts. Right now, I’m dying to head to the confessional but in the wake of the pandemic, it is a remote possibility (sigh)...

Please pray for me, but I would be more grateful in case anyone has suggestions to deal with this crisis...

TIA...!


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I would really recommend what has worked for me.

Go to Sexaholics Anonymous. I got clean.
Covenant Eyes and stayfocusd
Daily excercise.
The Jesus prayer of the Desert Fathers/ deep meditation.
Weekly confession with the same priest.
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As for professional problems, a lot of people start compulsive sexual behavior to manage other problems: anxiety; ADD; etc.

Getting that dealt with is very important. Finding a good shrink can help (assuming you've got the insurance).
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Just after writing I remembered the pandemic.

So, call SA anyway. And maybe call around for local priests to find a confessor who will meet you through a door or from your car.

A lot of shrinks are talking to patients over the phone
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#5
A simple devotion is the 3 Hail Marys devotion. 3 Hail Marys when you wake up and 3 Hail Marys just before you go to bed for purity. 

You can get through this!

"There is nothing more pleasing to God, than to see a soul who patiently and serenely bears whatever crosses it is sent; this is how love is made, by putting lover and loved one on the same level. . . A soul who loves Jesus Christ desires to be treated the way Christ was treated-desires to be poor, despised and humiliated."

St Alphonsus Ligouri
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(03-20-2020, 09:47 PM)AndreasIosephus Wrote: +PAX+

I so wish I could have devoted a lot of time and energy to being more active or at least a devoted spectator on this forum but I feel that I have hit a rough patch since the last few months...

Well, the past few months have involved me coming to terms with a lot of things at a personal level which seem sort of saddening but have no other choice but to accept it as a cross. Also, I have begun to give a leeway to impurity - I fall into the sin of pleasuring myself to porn and have started cussing a lot. I thought of giving these up during Lent this year but have been failing miserably.  To make matters worse, while falling prey to temptation, I feel guilty that I am cheating the love of my life who has stood up for me through thick and thin as well as has saved my life...

With all my crosses at the personal and professional fronts, I’m finding it really difficult to pray (even basic prayers) and reconcile with God and Our Lady. Of course, I do honour Them still but I find myself helpless and hopeless and unable to see anything beyond my problems. The good side in me still expresses gratitude to God and Our Lady for all small victories in life but my crosses just overwhelm me for most of the time.

TBH, after all these happenings, I think I’m going through a spiritual crisis. I’m not thinking of changing my religion but don’t want to lose my religion either. I want to fight back, emerge out of these victorious and be reconciled back to God irrespective of my imperfections and sinful acts. Right now, I’m dying to head to the confessional but in the wake of the pandemic, it is a remote possibility (sigh)...

Please pray for me, but I would be more grateful in case anyone has suggestions to deal with this crisis...

TIA...!


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There are priests offering drive-thru confessionals right now. It's possible one might be in your area. It's tough and without sufferings to offer to God it's going to be extremely difficult which is why so many priests have stepped up to the plate to at least provide these drive-thru confessionals.
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AndreasIosephus, you have already received so much loving advice. I'd follow it as best you can in this situation. Let me add just this little consideration:

Back up a bit, and take a good look at the big picture: the pressure's on and Satan is taking advantage, beating you where he can. So take away his toys by recognizing this crisis really isn't all about you and me--it's about Jesus Christ.

Another way to say it: we can do NOTHING to help ourselves. In the past this fact hasn't been so obvious perhaps; now it's in your face, big time.

You've been trying to be your own god, right? Fix it with your own strength? 'Take the bull by the horns'? From time to time we all try to pull that stunt.

Turn instead at every moment to the Lord and admit the truth: I am nothing. YOU do this.

Then pray the Novena of Surrender to the Will of God here.
Qui me amat, amet et Deum meum.
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(03-21-2020, 09:55 AM)Teresa Agrorum Wrote: AndreasIosephus, you have already received so much loving advice. I'd follow it as best you can in this situation. Let me add just this little consideration:

Back up a bit, and take a good look at the big picture: the pressure's on and Satan is taking advantage, beating you where he can. So take away his toys by recognizing this crisis really isn't all about you and me--it's about Jesus Christ.

Another way to say it: we can do NOTHING to help ourselves. In the past this fact hasn't been so obvious perhaps; now it's in your face, big time.

You've been trying to be your own god, right? Fix it with your own strength? 'Take the bull by the horns'? From time to time we all try to pull that stunt.

Turn instead at every moment to the Lord and admit the truth: I am nothing. YOU do this.

Then pray the Novena of Surrender to the Will of God here.

This is excellent advice!  Sometimes God uses these situations to remind us of our littleness and powerlessness without Him.

I have been vexed by unwanted thoughts and temptations at times that are so aggravating and annoying that I felt like I was going mad.  Prayer, Holy water, extra rosaries, nothing would make them go away.

Finally I found my secret weapon.  Since they were unwanted I offered them up as a prayer for my soul and others in danger of the fires of Hell and boom---gone!  That's the last thing Satan wants!  ;)
Rome will lose the faith and become the seat of the antichrist. 
The demons of the air together with the Antichrist will perform great wonders  
The Church will be in eclipse

-Our Lady of La Salette


Like Christ, His Bride the Church will undergo its own passion, burial, and resurrection.
-unknown traditional priest

Father Ripperger said that if we are detached from all things, aren't afraid to suffer, and we accept all suffering as the will of God for our sanctity, we have nothing to fear!
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Oh, just wanted to add that it's good that you connect your sins to the love and fidelity you have vowed for your wife.  

How about making amends by focusing more on that love and finding new and better ways of expressing it?


"charity covereth a multitude of sins."  1Peter 4:8
Rome will lose the faith and become the seat of the antichrist. 
The demons of the air together with the Antichrist will perform great wonders  
The Church will be in eclipse

-Our Lady of La Salette


Like Christ, His Bride the Church will undergo its own passion, burial, and resurrection.
-unknown traditional priest

Father Ripperger said that if we are detached from all things, aren't afraid to suffer, and we accept all suffering as the will of God for our sanctity, we have nothing to fear!
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Oh, and one more thing!

Make use of the Plenary Indulgence!

https://www.fisheaters.com/forums/showth...?tid=86387
Rome will lose the faith and become the seat of the antichrist. 
The demons of the air together with the Antichrist will perform great wonders  
The Church will be in eclipse

-Our Lady of La Salette


Like Christ, His Bride the Church will undergo its own passion, burial, and resurrection.
-unknown traditional priest

Father Ripperger said that if we are detached from all things, aren't afraid to suffer, and we accept all suffering as the will of God for our sanctity, we have nothing to fear!
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