SSPX Sex Scandals And Cover Ups
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(04-27-2020, 03:25 PM)Sacred Heart lover Wrote: Perpetrators groom.

I remember back when I was little we were all told never to talk to strangers, or accept rides from them, or candy, etc.

The problem today is that for the last 30+ years we've started saying that we can act however we want and do whatever we want in public, and if someone is offended, or thinks evil, or is tempted, that's not our problem, it is theirs.

When a woman goes out dressed like a prostitute, drinks like a fish, dances seductively with men she does not know, and then ends up in bed with a man who she never would have wanted to sleep with otherwise, the world says it's his fault alone, and if you say "maybe she shouldn't have dressed like that, gotten drunk or come on to the man" you are "blaming the victim" and that's the worst crime. 

Yes. I am. At least for her part of the imprudence in making the situation possible.

An ounce of prevention ...

Grooming happens, but as someone who has had training in detecting it especially in children, so it can be reported and dealt with, I can tell you that the vast majority if not all, would be prevented by dropping that liberal "I can do as I please, and who are you to say I'm wrong" attitude and instead going back to that simple advice to children.
  • Don't talk to strangers, even if they're nice to you ... especially if they're nice to you.
  • Dress and act properly in public.
  • Don't do anything your grandmother (maybe now it should be your great-great grandmother) would blush if she saw.
  • Don't spend time alone with anyone who is not your immediate family or a very close friend.
  • Don't ever spend time alone with someone of the opposite sex who is not your wife/husband.
Effectively, if we did the Mike Pence thing with dinner and women (or its equivalent), and took the basic advice we got 40 years ago, 90% of abuse would not be possible. It won't prevent all cases, but the vast majority.

The proof that we're not doing this is if you look at what the world expects now in teaching young children. It is not "don't talk to strangers" but "don't let strangers touch you anywhere you don't want to be touched, but if you do like it that's okay, because it's okay to do whatever you want." Again, as a teacher I know that's the standard advice given now, because it's in all of the guides and manuals you find. We're teaching 5-year-olds sex ed, and how to abuse, and then trying to teach them it's okay if it's consensual.

That's exactly what I mean by puritanical hedonism.

Of course as Catholics, we don't overtly act this way and think ourselves virtuous, but sadly the spirit behind that often affects our responses.
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RE: SSPX Sex Scandals And Cover Ups - by Adventus - 04-22-2020, 04:00 PM
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