Milo Turns a Corner
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(03-11-2021, 01:19 PM)Adventus Wrote:
(03-11-2021, 12:49 PM)VoxClamantis Wrote:  Others wouldn't be "scandalized" (or, as is more common, wouldn't claim to be scandalized) if they assume the best about others (for folks reading over our shoulders, see Fr. Frederick Faber's "On Taking Scandal").

I'm big on keeping the private life private, generally, but one's address is a pretty public thing. And, sometimes, not revealing oneself something that can easily be known leads to gossip, whisper campaigns, etc., that lead others to, again, assume the worst, but this time, multiplied by a thousand.

I'll take a look......thanks.

It goes without saying that we should assume the best about others. But it's also true that there are certain people I can say things that I cannot with others. Not an exact analogy (all of which are not adults)...but...I don't parent thinking all my children will assume the best. In fact, if I did that, there is a good chance it will be interpreted in a way that is not healthy; even if no gossiping takes place. It's important to take into consideration what good one may achieve by airing these sorts of things and if indirect scandal is highly possible. I don't think it's a stretch to say that with this particular topic, it's highly likely people may take it in an unhealthy manner.

Something to consider...we all assumed he was living in open sin prior to this announcement, right?  So had he not made it public that he and his roommate are now living together chastely, or at least trying to, we'd assume his actual situation was worse than it is.  Where there is legitimate scandal here, there would have been greater scandal had he left everyone assuming he was still living his prior life.  So there doesn't seem much point in decrying the potential smaller scandal that now exists, at least not right now.  It comes across as nothing ever being good enough, and the immediate tsk-tsking might just push him to go back into his previous way of living.
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Milo Turns a Corner - by Bonaventure - 03-09-2021, 08:37 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Eric F - 03-09-2021, 08:41 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by HedgeKnight - 03-10-2021, 12:53 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by SeekerofChrist - 03-10-2021, 01:08 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-10-2021, 12:39 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by dahveed - 03-10-2021, 06:16 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Evangelium - 03-10-2021, 12:27 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by SeekerofChrist - 03-10-2021, 12:37 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by VoxClamantis - 03-10-2021, 12:56 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Justin Tertius - 03-10-2021, 01:22 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by SeekerofChrist - 03-10-2021, 01:44 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Bonaventure - 03-10-2021, 02:26 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Melkite - 03-11-2021, 08:48 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-11-2021, 11:14 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Melkite - 03-11-2021, 03:12 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-11-2021, 03:58 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by SeekerofChrist - 03-11-2021, 11:35 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Melkite - 03-11-2021, 03:15 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by SeekerofChrist - 03-11-2021, 03:23 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by jbean - 03-10-2021, 01:51 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Evangelium - 03-10-2021, 02:59 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-10-2021, 03:04 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Blind Horus - 03-10-2021, 08:54 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by austenbosten - 03-10-2021, 10:55 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by VoxClamantis - 03-11-2021, 11:55 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-11-2021, 12:18 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by VoxClamantis - 03-11-2021, 12:49 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-11-2021, 01:19 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Melkite - 03-11-2021, 03:23 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Adventus - 03-11-2021, 05:09 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by FultonFan - 03-11-2021, 12:02 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by VoxClamantis - 03-11-2021, 12:15 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by FultonFan - 03-11-2021, 12:43 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Blind Horus - 03-11-2021, 01:03 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Evangelium - 03-11-2021, 05:32 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Melkite - 03-11-2021, 06:04 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Filiolus - 03-11-2021, 07:30 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by SeekerofChrist - 03-11-2021, 08:15 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by VoxClamantis - 03-11-2021, 08:22 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Filiolus - 03-11-2021, 08:38 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Evangelium - 03-11-2021, 08:52 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by FultonFan - 03-11-2021, 08:55 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by FultonFan - 03-11-2021, 08:57 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by VoxClamantis - 03-11-2021, 09:44 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by austenbosten - 03-12-2021, 12:08 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by jovan66102 - 03-12-2021, 12:24 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by Filiolus - 03-12-2021, 07:56 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by austenbosten - 03-12-2021, 11:19 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by FultonFan - 03-12-2021, 11:38 AM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by austenbosten - 03-12-2021, 01:30 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by MacPasquale - 03-12-2021, 03:11 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by FultonFan - 03-12-2021, 03:54 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by austenbosten - 03-12-2021, 07:10 PM
RE: Milo Turns a Corner - by IudicaMe - 03-12-2021, 11:28 AM



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